Monthly Archives: July 2018

Carry On Domming #1

I love the incongruous in BDSM, the unexpected moments to produce a giggle, the quirky and the downright hilarious.  Tension busting moments.  Ice breaking moments. This is the first in an occasional series,

Mending Stray Threads And Purpose

It’s over a week ago since I wrote about about how hard a session of confinement and brainwashing had been.  This is quite a hard post to write because I have to admit that it actually took me to some very unexpected places over an extended period of time that take quite a bit of processing.

Your Post Might Not Be As Self-Indulgent As You Think

It becomes a recurring question as to what it is I am doing here ?  Not just regarding what I post, but what it is I enjoy reading from other people.

Clearing the Bar – Confinement & Brainwashing

Six hours in a sleepsack, oblivious to the world sounds wonderfully relaxing, right ? It certainly can be, but when she straps me in, applies the blindfold and places the headphones over my ears there’s an additional element.  The headphones are playing a continuous hypnosis loop and will continue to do so for the next six hours.  This… Read More »

An Apology To (some) Doms

My knowledge and experience of male doms is limited and coloured from the past.

The Leisure of Slow Bondage

I love bondage, confinement and sensory deprivation.  The tighter the bondage, the greater the feelings of restraint and there are so many variations in how it can be implemented. When it comes to canes, whips and other means of inflicting pain and raising endorphins the mind is very focused on dealing with the immediacy of the pain and… Read More »

Subs of Convenience

I came across this term recently in an article by @DoctorSue.  It is a wonderful encapsulation of something I’ve tried to convey myself but failed to reduce it to such a succinct phrase.

Give Me All Your Money

Financial domination has to be one of the more contentious aspects of D/s.  On coming across this kink the initial reaction is often one of horror and repugnance. There was a Twitter thread on Sunday started by @_Masterseye about some of the uglier FinDom terminology turning up in her timeline via RT’s.  It seems I set myself up to produce… Read More »

Thoughts on Financial Domination

I don’t know – you get suckered by the perils of Twitter exchanges where you find you’ve half committed writing a post on the topic in question. Up to now I’ve specifically kept away from the topic of financial domination.  Partly because I knew I’d write way too much.  Whilst I have mixed views on it a lot… Read More »

Wish Fulfilment vs Reality

I was ruminating on a variation of that old perennial of what would one do if one had the money to be free of the usual responsibilities.  Where my mind turned to was that this was a form of fantasy wish fulfilment.  Some of those wishes may be grounded in some reality but are generally unobtainable for now.… Read More »

Facing The Darkness

I and others sometimes write about the descent in to darkness and dark fantasies that male subs, especially, are prone to.  They’re often related to the internalised rationale of ‘I wish someone would make me do that.’