Monthly Archives: May 2019

To Galahad – Noun

Reading Time: 4 minutes Going through the draft folder and trying to clean it up, I came across a saved quote from a conversation from months ago.  Recalling that conversation it was about how men randomly and rapidly appear in the timeline of a female and particularly in DMs to offer support, outrage, comfort and a number of other seemingly non-threatening things.… Read More »

Teaching Poker to a Dog

Reading Time: 4 minutes Here’s the thing – I don’t understand this word dominance. For sure, I know what it means, just as I know all too well what it feels like to be on the receiving end of dominance. What I mean is that I do not understand what it is to be dominant in a D/s context.  I don’t understand… Read More »

SwirlingFire: Laughter

Reading Time: 2 minutes #WickedWednesday Prompt #365 – Laughter This Shirley temple giggle gif is probably the one I’m known for using most frequently – when I’ve genuinely giggled with a tweet thread. Extract: During a laugh, respiration, heart rate and blood pressure temporarily rise. This causes oxygen to surge through the bloodstream that then results in lower blood pressure. Laughter improves… Read More »

We Are Living On Forbidden Planet

Reading Time: 2 minutes The civilised Krell destroyed themselves by creating a network where they could express their deepest thoughts and desires.  The machine behind the network could turn these thoughts and desires in to physical manifestations. The Krell wiped themselves out overnight due to the ‘monsters from the Id’ being made manifest. Does this sound familiar ? Human civilisation is the… Read More »

SwirlingFire: The Request

Reading Time: 7 minutes The Request I’ve never made a secret of my introduction into the depraved and darkly delicious addictive ways of a malevolent dom of shady intentions.  I think I’ve written more than thirty blogs about the ways I was manipulated and coerced into a non-consensual D/s “affair” – which, upon reflection can be termed as “CNC”. I’m using this… Read More »

New Role #SB4MH

Reading Time: 1 minute Some of you may have seen that I am a new member of the team at Sex Bloggers for Mental Health.  Thank you @SassyCat3000 and @May_Matters for inviting me onto the team.

Rant #396

Reading Time: 2 minutes If there’s one thing to seriously enrage me in the office over and above the high noise levels it is the sounds and smells of people eating at their desks.

Pistanthrophobia

Reading Time: 4 minutes I wrote a piece on trust at the beginning of the year.  This #TellMeAbout prompt allows me to reassess a few things and be clear, at least in my own mind, as to what my own personal nuances around trust mean. Trust is a strange commodity.  I was going to write that I don’t have any in the… Read More »

SwirlingFire: Ignite

Reading Time: 7 minutes Ignite Emotional abusers within the BDSM community are moving amongst us. They’re well known yet continue to “operate” shielded by sycophants.  Often known as an “enabler” DM conversations have repeated the same names.  Over and over again.  Some of my online experiences (I’ll take 50%) have been through misunderstandings. Mine and theirs. I don’t give offence, it’s taken. If I’ve… Read More »

Who Do You Want In Your Corner ?

Reading Time: 4 minutes In this age of online social media it’s not uncommon for people, especially kids, to say that they have hundreds of friends.  Those of us slightly older remember the sage advice that if you can reach the end of your life counting true friends on the fingers of more than one hand, then you’ve been well served in… Read More »

Stepping Out

Reading Time: 4 minutes There are different types of hypnosis sessions and my favourite is the real-time session.  These are the same format as the online webcam sessions, except that we’re in the same room and about three feet apart.  There’s an added element of intimacy to these sessions.  She can play more with her voice in the confidence that technology won’t… Read More »

SwirlingFire: Gaslighting & Ghosting

Reading Time: 4 minutes Gaslighting & Ghosting 7 Stages of Gaslighting in a Relationship The term originates from the Film ‘Fanny by Gaslight’ – A charming and handsome man with a dastardly past exploits his knowledge of her family history to manipulate an innocent young woman. 

Boiling A Frog

Reading Time: 4 minutes For me the term spanking is not, as it might be for others, a short sharp punishment.  It’s not a six of the best to highlight a broken rule.  For me it’s part of a highly intimate dance over one or perhaps two hours in a CP session. The actual spanking part is an intermediate stage in a… Read More »

SwirlingFire: Clique Bait

Reading Time: 6 minutes   Clique Bait I’ve been thinking about the way I express myself quite a lot lately.  Especially in the speedy way that Twitter makes my mind race too fast.  I’ve mentioned in the past that what passes for my extremely dry/gallows/friendly sarcasm in real life is greatly skewed in typed form.  Intonation, giggle, smiles and reciprocated put downs… Read More »