Betrayal ! It’s an ugly word.
For me betrayal apparently happens over small things, it’s not the big thing that others describe replete with the frenzy of Armageddon. In fact I think the worst betrayal I experienced was because she didn’t know she’d done it, despite it being implemented months before it was activated.
We had a primarily online relationship over many years. I was probably a bit pushy as a sub and she was scared by commitment. The pattern was played out many times, the emotional closeness would deepen and I’d start thinking that ‘this time we can break the pattern’. Then the elastic would snap and she’d break. Her go to strategy was a week of silence after which there would be a tearful email from the Middle East where she’d taken a short notice contract for a few months, we’d be back to square one and on hold until she came back.
I suppose that these days you would say that it was ghosting and quite refined ghosting.
By the time I am recalling she had enrolled in university and spending the summer holiday working in the Middle East was lucrative enough to pay for the rest of the year. So it was no surprise when we had the conversation about her going and the dates. What was important to me was that she’d expressed keen interest in attending an event with me late in the summer. Something I was really looking forward to.
So yes, we discussed her dates and when she would be back in the UK in order to make the event – about a week before, she said. It was all quite tickety-boo.
