Category Archives: Personal

The Bon Motto

Reading Time: 2 minutes   When it comes to BDSM I’m more inclined to the principles of RACK than SSC, though either is a vital concept in such relationships for them to be safe(r) and successful. However, although you may not come across these concepts until moving in BDSM circles they’re really just a restatement of something that should already be intrinsic… Read More »

Social Media

Reading Time: 5 minutes   My list of what is social media is defined by age.  My first access to the Internet was in 1991.  The company I’d just joined had installed a Cisco router with a 14,400 dial on demand modem.  A small SCO Unix box was the means for providing everyone with an email account.  I became the de facto… Read More »

Ripping Yarns

Reading Time: 4 minutes Content Notice References to Peter Sutcliffe The blog by @May_Matters is a great read that is enjoyed by many.  There’s been a wonderful addition to it with posts from her man, Mr More.  These posts evoke my memories of gritty experiences of the 1970’s and 1980’s. The genesis of this post was a lovely tale, Take It Easy and the… Read More »

Barnet Bastille – Farewell

Reading Time: 4 minutes Content Notice Needle Play Pictures In the time I’ve been writing this blog and relating some D/s experiences with my domme, I’ve maintained a level of discretion as to who she is.  It’s not that I’ve hidden things, the breadcrumbs have always been there and some curious readers have followed them and worked out who she is. For… Read More »

Memories of The World Trade Center

Reading Time: 4 minutes   Sat in my office that Tuesday afternoon I heard a bubble of noise to look at the news.  Confused as it was, the scenes were horrifying.  A plane had flown in to one of the towers of the WTC.  Back then no one’s first conclusion was terrorism, we must be witnessing a terrible accident. Then we had… Read More »

Labour of Love

Reading Time: 4 minutes   You might call this weekend a labour of love with lots of added nostalgia. Over five years ago my former Mistress (P) stopped being a domme.  She became a pro-domme after her online business went down the pan due to Chinese fakes flooding the market.  It never really suited her as the difference between lifestyle and pro… Read More »

[F4TFriday] I Write

Reading Time: 4 minutes   I write. For work I’ve written dry technical documents for far too many years.  It’s a feature of the tech world that when someone has spent long enough at the coal face such that they’re quite valuable in that role, they get set to writing documents and specifications about it.  The ability to spell and use grammar… Read More »

Self Indulgent Post – II (Revisited)

Reading Time: 2 minutes   It’s that time again.  I went back to read what I wrote this time last year.  This year there is one more year of melody getting stronger and having her own perspective.  This adds a different poignancy in that following the ‘outing’ conversation with my father it was clear that the same conversation if my mother had… Read More »

[F4TFriday] Was / Am I Crazy ?

Reading Time: 4 minutes Am I going crazy ? That wasn’t a totally silly question.  As I now know, melody has been there for a very long time although largely ignored.  The first time she grabbed control and wouldn’t let go was a scary mental episode to come to terms with. I know it’s not a coincidence that she did so a… Read More »

Just When It Was All Tickety-Boo

Reading Time: 2 minutes Betrayal !  It’s an ugly word. For me betrayal apparently happens over small things, it’s not the big thing that others describe replete with the frenzy of Armageddon.  In fact I think the worst betrayal I experienced was because she didn’t know she’d done it, despite it being implemented months before it was activated.

Pater Familias

Reading Time: 9 minutes I did something for the first time ever this Father’s Day, I muted the words on Twitter. I don’t mean it was the first time I’d muted these particular words, it was the first time I’d muted anything at all. This is all quite strange because it wasn’t about poignant or hard memories, it was the fact that… Read More »

Me, Myself and I

Reading Time: 3 minutes If you’re a regular reader then you’ll know I discuss various aspects of melody as an increasingly strong persona.  If you’re not a regular reader, this post may not make much sense.  It’s a mood piece and rambles a bit.  A post for me as the audience.

Roleplay

Reading Time: 3 minutes Roleplay. Some love it and some hate it, so this week we are asking you for your thoughts and experience. Is it something you use to push your boundaries and explore the kinks you share, or something you have found just doesn’t work for you. Whatever your thoughts on this creative kink, we would love to hear about… Read More »