In a previous post I made a reference to the way that the Internet drives sub and especially ‘sissy’ expectations of what they are supposed to be and that it’s been a race to the bottom.
To nicely illustrate the point I was thinking about, I came across this tweet. What I should emphasise is that this is fairly mild and from someone who otherwise takes their responsibilities seriously.
I’ll not name the lady, but it is a domme I’ve seen around who I know does take due care of those who come to her and takes pride in doing so.
What a miserable day! which pathetic loser is gonna put a smile on my face today? Who shall I laugh at and humiliate? New sissies and ABDL’s are welcomed into my empire impress me by applying. Good luck
I have some difficulty in believing that if this was a male dom trying to attract a female that the language would be deemed in any way acceptable.
Yet, this is de rigeur for males subs, be it sissy, ABDL, FinDom, chastity and many other kinks. I can’t think of a domme I’ve come across with an online presence who doesn’t use triggers like this or worse as the primary hook to attract new subs as clients. Both parties are conditioned to the propaganda
I know it’s not cut and dried. There are many subs who are self-aware regarding what they want and love the outlet of being called worthless and a loser, to be humiliated with SPH and sissy style feminisation. To clarify, I’m not talking about the hotness of two people mutually playing around the themes of degradation and humiliation. I’m talking about a mindset conditioned to believe in humiliation and degradation as the default state of being.
This gets reinforced by things like the “Sub’s Prayer”, which is sort of OK until the 3rd verse.
The nagging question I have is, did they have a choice to arrive at this position ? Did they know this was not the only path ? Did they have the information to consent to being conditioned in this way ?
When I talked with the ex-mistress a few weeks back, I specifically asked her about her levels of humiliation play. I knew she had a few sissy’s and she confirmed that with those others she absolutely loved strong and cruel humiliation play with them. Of course, those subs were regulars always coming back for more. Knowing her well, this will have been consensual but it doesn’t take much for the ethics to slip to engage on the blackest of paths.
The pathology of how a male arrives in such a dark space is fascinating. I’m convinced that the way a sub encounters the D/s environment through the online medium that it’s now an exception for him to not be programmed to accept the dark space as the real thing.
And if you want some food for thought, go back a few posts on consent where I started thinking more deeply about this. Consider the male, any male not just a sub, exposed to all this negative fantasy programming that doesn’t have the courage, even online, to find an outlet. He’s one step away from finding, viewing and believing the incel manifesto.