Category Archives: Opinion

Noise Phobic or a Snob ?

I can come across as a right anti-social little bugger.  One of the reasons is that I have low threshold tolerance to ambient noise.  I’ve always been that way and recently it’s got significantly worse.  The trigger for this thought train came from a Twitter thread on films.  It becomes a bit of a joke when similar discussions… Read More »

melody Does Have Her Own Personality

Something I keep nagging at is how real is melody ?  Is she some kind of play acting thrown at me by my psyche as a joke to excuse a cross dressing fetish by pretending it’s real ?

The Christmas House of Horrors

This post is me cathartically venting.  It is my way of dumping an unpleasant time over Christmas and moving on (until next time). CONTENT WARNING This post contains examples of the stream of consciousness I was subjected to over two days of Christmas.  Be warned that it contains examples of :- Transphobia / Homophobia Racism Misogyny Body shaming… Read More »

Am I That Different ?

Chatting with someone the other evening, they hit me with this:- You have an intelligent eloquent style of writing that’s different to other cd/sissy / masochist/exploratory

Changing Priorities

Sometimes I have a stream of consciousness that expresses itself over many months.  Things that fill the mind in the small hours of sleeplessness.  Quite amazing the personal thoughts that end up here as if this was actually a totally private space.

Thoughts from a Disturbing Picture

The @WhoresofYore account is a treasure trove, combining current sex worker advocacy with fascinating historical context and downright curiosities. She posted this curiosity of a picture which has all sorts of interesting things in it for my own darker kinks, fetishes and desires.

Your Post Might Not Be As Self-Indulgent As You Think

It becomes a recurring question as to what it is I am doing here ?  Not just regarding what I post, but what it is I enjoy reading from other people.

An Apology To (some) Doms

My knowledge and experience of male doms is limited and coloured from the past.

Subs of Convenience

I came across this term recently in an article by @DoctorSue.  It is a wonderful encapsulation of something I’ve tried to convey myself but failed to reduce it to such a succinct phrase.

Thoughts on Financial Domination

I don’t know – you get suckered by the perils of Twitter exchanges where you find you’ve half committed writing a post on the topic in question. Up to now I’ve specifically kept away from the topic of financial domination.  Partly because I knew I’d write way too much.  Whilst I have mixed views on it a lot… Read More »

Excuse me ?!?!

Time for a minor rant. One of my more unusual posts was about a sploshing session done a couple of months ago.  My domme had a picture from that session up on FetLife.  The cause of my irritation is that today a new comment appeared under the picture.

Who’d Get Locked in Chastity ?

The answer is that there are a surprising number who do so and many many times that number who fantasise about it.

Why Do I Write This Blog ?

Being the flippant bugger I am, that question brings to mind the Bill Hicks Waffle House routine.

Women Rarely Know How Intimidating They Are

This post is inspired by a conversation this week with a lovely blogging lady. I’m speaking of when I grew up.  I can’t speak for current generations, but the indications are that the gap in male understanding of females is wider and more unbridgeable than ever.

Harmful Language Programs Male Subs

In a previous post I made a reference to the way that the Internet drives sub and especially ‘sissy’ expectations of what they are supposed to be and that it’s been a race to the bottom.

Consent & Contracts

Consent is a topic that’s currently on a lot of people’s minds.  Before diving in to this post I should state that consent is a good thing, there should be consent 100% of the time one is engaged.  How consent is maintained, updated and revoked is heavily nuanced by the circumstances and the people involved. 

What Does It Mean To Be Normal ?

I’ve seen posts with many variations of this theme.  People asking themselves if they are normal or perceived as normal.  Indeed, what is normal ?  Obviously, I’ve asked the same questions of myself over the years. I think the question pre-supposes a certain level of self-awareness.  If you never question elements of your own make up in comparison… Read More »

The Dark Side of Humanity is Darker Than Ever

This post is not about D/s nor is it funny.  It’s about being angry at a re-awakening to the dark, vicious and sick side of humanity.  Please move on if you’re looking to be amused.  This is not an easy post.

Ok Melody, Where’s the Sex ?

Good question.