Category Archives: Opinion

Trans Identity

Reading Time: 6 minutes   This post is a departure from my usual fare.  It may upset some, potentially alienate others.  Quite likely I will receive flak, perhaps abuse.  Probably lose followers, too. When all is said and done I’m of an older generation that grew up in a very different world.  As such I have a big beef with the conformity… Read More »

The Trousers of Time (at The Crossroads)

Reading Time: 5 minutes   There’s a moment in time during childhood that I can pinpoint as to when my life changed irrevocably.  The fork in the road took me out of one placid inevitability into a chaotic future that still has repercussions each time the butterfly flaps its wings. Obviously, as a child, the choice was made for me.  What no… Read More »

The Bon Motto

Reading Time: 2 minutes   When it comes to BDSM I’m more inclined to the principles of RACK than SSC, though either is a vital concept in such relationships for them to be safe(r) and successful. However, although you may not come across these concepts until moving in BDSM circles they’re really just a restatement of something that should already be intrinsic… Read More »

Ripping Yarns

Reading Time: 4 minutes Content Notice References to Peter Sutcliffe The blog by @May_Matters is a great read that is enjoyed by many.  There’s been a wonderful addition to it with posts from her man, Mr More.  These posts evoke my memories of gritty experiences of the 1970’s and 1980’s. The genesis of this post was a lovely tale, Take It Easy and the… Read More »

[F4TFriday] Live Your Truth

Reading Time: 4 minutes   Let’s face it, the majority of the words we live by are given to us, with varying degrees of force, by people who want to control us, make us conform to their concepts of how we should live.  They are thrown at us all our lives, if we let them.

[TellMeAbout] Humiliation

Reading Time: 4 minutes Humiliation play, this is an awkward one.  Done within consensual, negotiated boundaries there’s a fair number will safely enjoy this type of play. I recently became reacquainted with an old post by @_floss_84 on cuckolding that includes a passage on the humiliation aspect that I asked to reproduce for this piece. Humiliation – Why have I, after saying it isn’t about… Read More »

To Galahad – Noun

Reading Time: 4 minutes Going through the draft folder and trying to clean it up, I came across a saved quote from a conversation from months ago.  Recalling that conversation it was about how men randomly and rapidly appear in the timeline of a female and particularly in DMs to offer support, outrage, comfort and a number of other seemingly non-threatening things.… Read More »

My Lifestyle Rules

Reading Time: 3 minutes I’ve spent some time considering this simple word and frankly, I must be a disappointment in this respect. I first encountered online forums some 25 years ago and if you want obsessive rules, these are still the places to go.  Whether it was the high protocol rooms on IRC – ‘slave must kneel and ask permission to enter… Read More »

Faith

Reading Time: 3 minutes Today’s #StoryIn12 word prompt had me thinking on some old thoughts.  The word was Faith. The human psyche has a very definite religious need.  Yes, modern western society tends to regard itself as increasingly secular with regard to the major religions, yet the same people decrying the ‘gullibility’ of the religiously inclined are often those most involved with… Read More »

Assignment Failure

Reading Time: 2 minutes I looked at this week’s prompt for #WickedWednesday of “fear” and thought it would be a good topic. After 4 or 5 abortive attempts I find that I can’t write on it. I’ve failed in the original intent, but I think the abrupt change in direction leaves what’s left as more valid than what I first had on… Read More »

Noise Phobic or a Snob ?

Reading Time: 4 minutes I can come across as a right anti-social little bugger.  One of the reasons is that I have low threshold tolerance to ambient noise.  I’ve always been that way and recently it’s got significantly worse.  The trigger for this thought train came from a Twitter thread on films.  It becomes a bit of a joke when similar discussions… Read More »

The Christmas House of Horrors

Reading Time: 5 minutes This post is me cathartically venting.  It is my way of dumping an unpleasant time over Christmas and moving on (until next time). CONTENT WARNING This post contains examples of the stream of consciousness I was subjected to over two days of Christmas.  Be warned that it contains examples of :- Transphobia / Homophobia Racism Misogyny Body shaming… Read More »

Am I That Different ?

Reading Time: 2 minutes Chatting with someone the other evening, they hit me with this:- You have an intelligent eloquent style of writing that’s different to other cd/sissy / masochist/exploratory

Changing Priorities

Reading Time: 2 minutes Sometimes I have a stream of consciousness that expresses itself over many months.  Things that fill the mind in the small hours of sleeplessness.  Quite amazing the personal thoughts that end up here as if this was actually a totally private space.