Prompts can sometimes pass by in a blur when you’re not ready to write. Sometimes you look at a prompt and think you have no connection to it. And that’s how it was for this prompt until I came upon this picture.
Beyond my initial reaction of “Brava”, it set me thinking. My current domme is actually a size 0 and quite gorgeous. Not because of her small stature, but because she’s naturally comfortable with it. She can drink wine and eat the odd pizza and not feel too guilty about it. And she has the curves.
She’s different to almost everyone else I’ve been close to. Yet, they all have have one thing in common. They have been relatively happy in their own skins.
All the other ladies I’ve been close to have been very curvy. My ‘big sister’ was indeed big at around a size 30 (UK) and she could proudly flaunt it in a manner that exuded body confidence and femininity.
My mistress was UK 20/22 and looked stunning in her bespoke corsetry, she had amazing poise, style and a flamboyance hard to pin down.
These are people I have thoroughly enjoyed being in their company. Some might say ‘big curves, big personality’. But what have curves to do with personality ?
If I’m honest, I grew up indoctrinated with the judgemental standards of the times being pummelled in to me. Those of my parent’s generation growing up under rationing considering anyone with meat on their bones as people to be censured, that they must somehow have been cheating the system.
I certainly had some prejudice regarding weight and size before these wonderful people had such an effect on my life. They were curvy and they loved who they were. They properly opened my eyes that the real aesthetic was internal, not external.
In my personal relations with curves I retain some of those old prejudices when I look in the mirror. There’s a limit to how petite I could be, based on having a male frame. To be healthy and proportionate as a female figure I have to accept that I’m not Wallace Simpson and really, although I’m sure that I’d dwarf Sophia Loren, that proportionate and healthy image of her curves is inspiring, as are the curves and body confidence of some of the beautiful people I’ve had the privilege to know. They’ve become role models now in a way totally unforeseen. Their body confidence, that glow of knowing who you are is what I really hope to be able to cultivate.
And hey, I might not be bothered about the pizza, but don’t stop me enjoying good wine 🍷🍷
March 12, 2020 @ 10:38 pm
Self acceptance is so difficult and so much more difficult when you don’t fit into the image that is perceived as perfect and desirable, while everything else isn’t good enough. At the same time, I think this idea of perfection means we are never happy no matter what we look like unless we are happy from the inside, personally and I think you hit the nail on the head with this post in that regard!
March 13, 2020 @ 7:29 am
Body dysmorphia is something I’m acutely aware of. Without those role models from my past I suspect it could become debilitating if I let it. They may not have been entirely happy, but they were comfortable in who they were. Thank you ML 🌹🌹
March 11, 2020 @ 11:36 pm
I agree with May that I think the sizes of clothes have changed over the years. I guess that shapes have changed a bit too. You make a really interesting point about it being about being comfortable with yourself and not really about the size. It is something I strive for but still a work in progress 😊
March 12, 2020 @ 5:56 am
The first lesson was to get beyond those ingrained prejudices about other people. The harder one is to get beyond it in relation to myself, I can be a bit hit and miss about that, 🌹🌹
March 10, 2020 @ 10:34 pm
What is a size 0 ? I think these really small sizes came over from the USA. My eldest fits nicely into my very old size 8 Levis from the late 80’s early 90’s but apparently when she shops now adays she fits for a size 4- i truly dont understand it all – but i love my pizza and wine and hope to share some with u someday 😉 x
March 11, 2020 @ 7:19 am
Clothing sizes are a nightmare comparison. Some charts say a US size 0 is a UK size 4 and some say a UK size 6, experience says it’s more likely to be a UK size 6. The gap between the sizes is about the same, just that the US starts the sizing scale at a different number.
Wine and pizza sounds enticing 🌹🌹
March 11, 2020 @ 10:36 am
I do think that they have changed the sizes over the years and TBH if i feel healthy i never really look at what size or weight I am x
March 10, 2020 @ 8:33 am
I love this post. It reminds me of some of the women I have known in my life who are unashamedly curvy and who have encouraged me to love myself.
March 10, 2020 @ 9:54 am
What a lovely comment, thank you 🌹
March 9, 2020 @ 7:01 pm
Oh the curse and the joy of curves. There was a time when I had no curves at all, and wanted them. Then I had them and wish I hadn’t, and now I know it’s as part of me as the color of my eyes 🙂
March 9, 2020 @ 7:08 pm
From the outside looking in, I’ve seen that it’s about being comfortable with them. Now that I’m kind of on the inside of it all, I think it’s the only way I can view it and remain mentally healthy.
Thanks, Marie 🌹🌹
March 8, 2020 @ 5:24 pm
You have struck a point with your descriptions of these women from size 0 to 30…it is about how we wear it and our acceptance of ourselves, which shows as confidence. We must love the skin we are in. Curves are a blessing or a curse, depending on how we view them.
March 8, 2020 @ 5:45 pm
Thank you, Brigit. That’s exactly it. Body dysmorphia is something I have to be careful of falling into. I see so many of all sexes where this is a deep well of despair. I’ve had some wonderful role models that stop me falling into the well (hopefully). 🌹🌹
March 8, 2020 @ 2:06 pm
You had me at Sophia Loren. Damn she was beautiful and had the curves with no stop sign.
March 8, 2020 @ 2:10 pm
When I saw that picture I knew I had a hook into the prompt. 🌹🌹
March 8, 2020 @ 2:12 pm
Well played 😎
March 8, 2020 @ 1:15 pm
Great post 😁
March 8, 2020 @ 1:28 pm
Thank you 🌹
March 8, 2020 @ 1:36 pm
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