Reading Time: 3 minutes It really came home to me last night just how blessed I have been with some of the people in my life. In a packed restaurant I was sat opposite my former mistress and we’re talking about anything and everything. She suffers from depression, anxiety and PTSD which means she can shut out the world for long periods… Read More »
Reading Time: 4 minutes In this age of online social media it’s not uncommon for people, especially kids, to say that they have hundreds of friends. Those of us slightly older remember the sage advice that if you can reach the end of your life counting true friends on the fingers of more than one hand, then you’ve been well served in… Read More »
Reading Time: 3 minutes I’ve spent some time considering this simple word and frankly, I must be a disappointment in this respect. I first encountered online forums some 25 years ago and if you want obsessive rules, these are still the places to go. Whether it was the high protocol rooms on IRC – ‘slave must kneel and ask permission to enter… Read More »
Reading Time: 2 minutes I wasn’t going to acknowledge Mother’s Day, certainly not publicly, until I started seeing various tweets go by. It struck me just how difficult a day it can be for a lot of people. There’s an additional poignancy for me in that tomorrow would have been her birthday, too. It’s not that I’ve ignored this sort of remembrance,… Read More »
Reading Time: 5 minutes There’s a common wish fulfilment myth about hypnosis that at the swing of a watch or the snap of a finger that you can be instantly made into somebody or something new. For someone who is struggling this seems to be a deceptively simple solution to all their problems. Instead it can seriously add to the problems.
Reading Time: 3 minutes This post is inspired by a conversation this week with a lovely blogging lady. I’m speaking of when I grew up. I can’t speak for current generations, but the indications are that the gap in male understanding of females is wider and more unbridgeable than ever.
Reading Time: 7 minutes I recently published a post Consent & Contracts on how contracts in D/s can at best blur the issues of consent and at worst lead to abuse. When I wrote it I had in mind to write a separate post relating how I migrated from the world of fantasy in to a full blown real chastity D/s relationship, which included… Read More »
Reading Time: 4 minutes I thought it time to write of the first domme I knew in the flesh as there’s an unexpected twist to the tale.
Reading Time: 3 minutes I can’t speak for female subs, but the drivers for a male sub can be pathological. At some level we are all seeking attention.
Reading Time: 3 minutes The break up wasn’t a break up in the traditional sense. No drama, no acrimony. Simply a flow from one state to another. In the first state she was an active domme and in the second, she wasn’t. In the first state I was her sub, in the second, a close friend.
Reading Time: 5 minutes My original series of posts for PainAsPleasure was recently reposted on this blog MELODY’S STORY – part 3, hypnosis in BDSM and I am very grateful to one concerned commenter with whom there was a wonderful conversation allowing me to expand on the safety aspects that aren’t apparent in the posts on hypnosis.
Reading Time: 5 minutes This post was originally posted on 27/01/2018 as the second of three guest posts on the PainAsPleasure blog by BibulousOne. He saw something and encouraged melody to write. From those small beginnings I’ve graduated to running my own blog. The post can be found at MELODY’S STORY – part 2 – chastity but is reproduced here in it’s entirety.
Reading Time: 2 minutes The scene is set in The Grand Hotel in Brighton. The elegant sweeping staircase leading up from the plush and busy lobby. The rooms and the rest of the hotel hiding incipient shabbiness by playing on appealing through the quaintness of history and tradition rather than modern facilities.