Category Archives: Relationships

There’s Room for Two: Sharing with SwirlingFire

If you’ve passed by here in the last month or so you’ll have noticed that there’s another voice sharing my blog space. I must admit that the momentum leading up to offering to publish someone else’s thoughts took me by surprise.

A Personal Journey Through D/s Hypnosis – Part 5, Crumbling Barriers

There’s a common wish fulfilment myth about hypnosis that at the swing of a watch or the snap of a finger that you can be instantly made into somebody or something new.  For someone who is struggling this seems to be a deceptively simple solution to all their problems.  Instead it can seriously add to the problems.

Women Rarely Know How Intimidating They Are

This post is inspired by a conversation this week with a lovely blogging lady. I’m speaking of when I grew up.  I can’t speak for current generations, but the indications are that the gap in male understanding of females is wider and more unbridgeable than ever.

The Making (and Breaking) of a Chastity Sub

I recently published a post Consent & Contracts on how contracts in D/s can at best blur the issues of consent and at worst lead to abuse. When I wrote it I had in mind to write a separate post relating how I migrated from the world of fantasy in to a full blown real chastity D/s relationship, which included… Read More »

Memories of a Special Person

I thought it time to write of the first domme I knew in the flesh as there’s an unexpected twist to the tale.

Can You Repair a Broken Soul ?

The break up wasn’t a break up in the traditional sense.  No drama, no acrimony.  Simply a flow from one state to another.  In the first state she was an active domme and in the second, she wasn’t.  In the first state I was her sub, in the second, a close friend.  

D/s Hypnosis – Where’s the Limit ?

My original series of posts for PainAsPleasure was recently reposted on this blog  MELODY’S STORY – part 3, hypnosis in BDSM and I am very grateful to one concerned commenter with whom there was a wonderful conversation allowing me to expand on the safety aspects that aren’t apparent in the posts on hypnosis.

MELODY’S STORY – part 2 – chastity

This post was originally posted on 27/01/2018 as the second of three guest posts on the PainAsPleasure blog by BibulousOne.  He saw something and encouraged melody to write.  From those small beginnings I’ve graduated to running my own blog. The post can be found at MELODY’S STORY – part 2 – chastity but is reproduced here in it’s entirety.

The Bitter Sweetness of the End

The scene is set in The Grand Hotel in Brighton.  The elegant sweeping staircase leading up from the plush and busy lobby.  The rooms and the rest of the hotel hiding incipient shabbiness by playing on appealing through the quaintness of history and tradition rather than modern facilities.