MELODY’S STORY – part 3, hypnosis in BDSM
This post was originally posted on 20/02/2018 as the last of three guest posts on the PainAsPleasure blog by BibulousOne. He saw something and encouraged melody to write. From those small beginnings I’ve graduated to running my own blog.
The post can be found at MELODY’S STORY – part 3, hypnosis in BDSM but is reproduced here in it’s entirety.
The final in this series of three posts by guest writer Melody I found fascinating. Melody discusses FemDom hypnosis, the holistic submissive experience and the mental and physical horizons that it opens up.
There are many of myths about hypnosis. In general terms you can not be made to do something your sub-conscious finds inimical. For hypnosis to really work you must want it to. It’s no use pursuing topics that your sub-conscious knows are not what you really want.
Perhaps the easiest place to start is with some familiar feelings. A domme is an expert at tickling all those triggers in a sub that make him need to submit and serve. Add hypnotic reinforcement of this and the binding of the sub to the domme goes even deeper. Reinforcing the trust and the urge to obey have had some interesting benefits when it comes to session activities.
The most dramatic ones being an ability to reassess and address hard limits.
Only in retrospect do I realise how calm I was when she broached the subject of performing needle play. I should have been close to panic. Months of hypnotic reinforcement of the need to submit and obey totally changed my natural emotions, supressing the fear and accentuating the curiosity. When it came time for the actual session it was as if a calm mental path had been carved for me to follow.
Perhaps a more understandable use of this type of hypnotic state are suggestions to extend pain thresholds. In an ongoing CP relationship there will likely be a progression of “training” to increase thresholds. Those could be pain from whips and canes or anal training. Hypnosis can help with that. Suggestions to increase tolerance to pain levels, even suggestions to want to be able to take more pain and to crave those activities.
Of course, this mental power and control by the hypno-domme grows as the trust grows. In that environment constant reinforcement of the need to submit, serve and obey makes those needs an even stronger reality.
For the longest time you’re convinced it’s an interesting game that you can stop at any time. By the time you start to wonder if she’s too deep inside for you to stop, she’s in much deeper than you realise and you’re lost. And oh, you so want to be lost.
My reason for pursuing the path of hypnosis was to explore emasculation, feminisation and gender. This is a different class of hypnosis, it’s life changing and not just a bit of kinky play. What’s different here is that not only are there changes in mental perceptions, there are also physical changes that manifest over time. This is where she digs so deep inside my head that the darkest corners I’m not even aware of are laid bare to her.
There are constant little mind fucks amongst the real biggies. The sub-conscious acts as a guardian and protects from inimical suggestions. Although it does its job, mine has its own definite sense of humour. Having learned to trust the domme it now seems to do what it can to facilitate her efforts.
We found that I started having amnesia about the content of the hypnosis sessions. I think my sub-conscious was playing on the meaning of raw honesty. It wanted to be sure that any effect was genuine and not the result of consciously playing along. Of course she was fascinated by it and embraced it, so it’s an odd, though now familiar feeling as I’m counted back up to feel all memory of a session flow away like water through a sieve.
There’s a wonderful serenity created from the relaxation of hypnosis and that helps me cope with the mind fuck of circular causes. Did I have that thought or do that thing because it was my idea, or was it a trigger she planted ? Like all other aspects of FemDom one learns to accept and embrace that there some things it’s beyond the sub to worry about.
There are definite long term effects from this level of hypnosis, some of them quite profound, that have allowed melody to grow and express her own identity. Melody’s self-visualisation and priorities are different to the male persona. A tidy example is that in being dressed melody has a compulsion to try to look feminine. To this end melody lost 70 lbs, something impossible for the male persona. These things manifest in their own strange ways, rarely direct from a suggestion. Linkages evolve as the sub-conscious does its work, leading to surprises for both me and the domme in the way something manifests.
The depth of trance and her control to induce the amnesia has allowed us to move on to the more contentious area of brainwashing and that is definitely exciting. We’re not talking of the Ipcress File here, nor the Manchurian Candidate. However, we are talking of sensory deprivation in bondage accompanied by a hypnotic loop.
The picture depicts melody in saran wrap and sensory deprivation hood losing track of time and space for many hours.
Even being quite experienced in mind play, this had unexpectedly strong effects. Some three days later the melody persona was suddenly very real and liberated from all previous shackles. The male persona was a spectator for a week. This hints at some fascinating possibilities for continued progress in becoming melody as full time as possible.
Hypnosis is just one part of my life with FemDom. It’s become a very important part since it both helps me submit deeper than I ever imagined possible and works on other levels to enable and free melody, mentally and physically.
These snapshots of what D/s means to melody are just the beginning and I’m very grateful for the opportunity of this platform. Melody will soon have her own platform and I look forward to seeing friends old and new there.
I hope you have enjoyed this series of guest posts with Melody’s experiences of a type of Femdom that is rather different from the sessions I have with Mistress Elita. I definitely plan to link up to Melody’s new blog once it’s launched!
D/s Hypnosis – Where’s the Limit ? – Insights and Ramblings of melody
April 23, 2018 @ 10:44 am
[…] original series of posts for PainAsPleasure was recently reposted on this blog MELODY’S STORY – part 3, hypnosis in BDSM and I am very grateful to one concerned commenter with whom there was a wonderful conversation […]
April 2, 2018 @ 5:48 pm
I am fascinated by this account but also find myself concerned for what might happen if this power is in the hands of someone who could exploit you.
April 2, 2018 @ 6:06 pm
Dear eye,
Thanks for the comment and the concerns which as an intense individualist were (and still are) always a major concern on my own part. As I’ll explain in posts I am working on, there are two fundamentals. Firstly, that hypnosis can’t make you do anything your sub-conscious doesn’t want you to do. How you listen to and take notice is a different matter that you need to learn to take seriously.
The second thing is that duty of care by the domme / hypnotist is paramount, without that I wouldn’t be able to trust and understand what she will and won’t do. The obvious issue is how does the hypnotist know when enough is enough ? In a CP session she can read stress body language to know within a hair’s breath when enough is enough. You can’t do that with hypnosis. Instead it takes intense and tedious dialogue and feedback, feeding suggestions that should be rejected by the sub-conscious and testing the outcome.
It took us two years to get to the stage described in the post and that just about puts us on a footing where we understand the processes and each other.
I hope you’ll follow some of the upcoming posts with fascination and interest. I know it’s not always obvious from a few words of narrative, but RACK/SSC is more important to her than other aspect of her business.
Absolutely wonderful to have concerned people reading the posts, I have a lot to thank B1 for.
Best wishes,
melody
April 2, 2018 @ 6:14 pm
I am relieved to read this. I think because I read it straight after the PA post I felt concerned.
April 2, 2018 @ 6:39 pm
I’ve knocked around for a long time, but I’m new to the blogging community. It’s been highly gratifying to find a group of people that are interested and concerned about the right things.
I think I know what would have set your alarm bells ringing. There’s a set of subs (usually male) who profess that they want to be ‘destroyed’ by a domme. I think it’s ludicrous because it shows an abject lack of self-respect and self-worth. However, there’s a dark corner inside of me, whether it’s for CP or hypnosis, that wonders about flirting with that line. What would it take to go over that line ?
We know that I can’t cross that line in CP sessions and the same is probably true of hypnosis but I don’t think we’d put it to the test as we can with CP.
When all is said and done, it’s an activity that’s part of a D/s relationship. On that order, most D/s participants can understand the high level protections and safeties, even without understanding the specifics. Otherwise, as you feared, it’s not a consensual D/s relationship, it’s abuse.
I am very sensitive to abuse. See my post on the tribute to Mrs SilK and dealing with potential suicide.
Way too long, but I do thank you for prodding at questions that to answer in the original post would destroy the narrative. They are very important questions.
April 2, 2018 @ 6:49 pm
Thank you Melody. I appreciate your reply. My comments come from a good place (or in my own case, a bad place) . You are eminently sane and well balanced and I shall stand down x
April 2, 2018 @ 6:55 pm
Don’t you dare stand down !!! xxx
April 2, 2018 @ 6:58 pm
Stands back up!!! xxx