Category Archives: Submission

A Personal Journey Through D/s Hypnosis – Part 9, The Whirling Conscious

“Let the mind wander as it will.” That’s a phrase I’ve heard a lot.  She uses it towards the end of an induction so that the separation between my conscious and sub-conscious is more distinct.  It’s the instruction for the conscious to go mind it’s own business whilst she talks to the sub-conscious.

Asexuality: A Personal Q&A

  You’re asexual, so you hate sex ?  Often that’s about the most informed people are regarding being asexual.  Some think you’re seriously mis-wired, some think you just haven’t met the right partner to bring you out of it. 

It’s Only Pain

I’ve been haunted by a comment made well over 20 years ago by a domme who first showed me what some of the hitty, hurty things could do.  It’s where I discovered how I can go introverted and unable to speak to safeword.  As mild as it seems now, I took a lot more than she expected, and… Read More »

Why is the Brain Full of Pepperoni ?

“In my opinion, there is no aspect of reality beyond the reach of the human mind. Stephen Hawking”

Exploring your mind is something that can be done whilst warm under the duvet. A post for #WickedWednesday prompt oof

Endorphin Rush

Content Warning Pictures of needle play It’s not everyone’s cup of tea and less than two years ago it wouldn’t have been mine, either.  In fact, it was something of a hard limit.

2018 – Perhaps Better Than I Thought

I wasn’t going to go all retrospective about 2018 until I thought that in some ways it’s been quite momentous and that I need to acknowledge and celebrate that.

A Personal Journey Through D/s Hypnosis – Part 8, Scrambling Time Sense

I’ve been experiencing the brainwashing sessions for a year, there are a number evolutions over that time as both of us have learned so much. The key word for this post is TIME.

Control – The Jedi Mind Trick

Submission, what is it ?? We all have our own ideas and definitions. One of them being that it is giving up “control” to someone else.  One of the most commonly expressed sub fantasies is to give up control, hand over total control.  It’s the root for “I’ll do anything you want, mistress’, the time waster’s mantra.

The Obscure Venn Diagram of Norman Collier & Hypnosis.

Who can remember hiding under the bed sheets trying to tune in a transistor radio ?  For some it would have been Radio Luxembourg, for me more likely to be a football commentary from across the continent.  Keeping a medium wave station in sync was an art form. Forty-five years later I sometimes think that we haven’t really… Read More »

A Personal Journey Through D/s Hypnosis – Part 7, To Surrender Is To Win

I have an unexpected quiet day which gives me some leisure to put a few things in better and broader context.  The last brainwashing and hypnosis sessions have had effects that I’m still processing and learning.  On the back of a fresh foundation of submission, service and obedience driven deeper than ever in the brainwashing, the following hypnosis… Read More »

A Personal Journey Through D/s Hypnosis – Part 5, Crumbling Barriers

There’s a common wish fulfilment myth about hypnosis that at the swing of a watch or the snap of a finger that you can be instantly made into somebody or something new.  For someone who is struggling this seems to be a deceptively simple solution to all their problems.  Instead it can seriously add to the problems.

A Personal Journey Through D/s Hypnosis – Part 4, Where’s the Oblivion Switch ?

Continuing with this occasional series, I thought I’d touch on one of my strange perceptions from within the tranced state. 

The Leisure of Slow Bondage

I love bondage, confinement and sensory deprivation.  The tighter the bondage, the greater the feelings of restraint and there are so many variations in how it can be implemented. When it comes to canes, whips and other means of inflicting pain and raising endorphins the mind is very focused on dealing with the immediacy of the pain and… Read More »

Subs of Convenience

I came across this term recently in an article by @DoctorSue.  It is a wonderful encapsulation of something I’ve tried to convey myself but failed to reduce it to such a succinct phrase.

Facing The Darkness

I and others sometimes write about the descent in to darkness and dark fantasies that male subs, especially, are prone to.  They’re often related to the internalised rationale of ‘I wish someone would make me do that.’ 

Ponderings on a Purity of Submission

What is this submission thing ?  What does it actually mean ? Not so long ago I woke up in the middle of the night with my mind whirling like a tornado as it latched on to these questions.  Sometimes hypnosis is very subtle in the way it can work on the mind.  This was a less than… Read More »

A Squalid Ocean of Abuse – The Sissy

A few weeks back I wrote a post on clearing out the last of the mental garbage associated with the ‘sissy’ label. Around about that time there was a very good post by furcissy analysing the over broad usage of this label in confusing and pejorative ways.  It’s a good piece, providing some insights in to the extensive behaviours and… Read More »

The Making (and Breaking) of a Chastity Sub

I recently published a post Consent & Contracts on how contracts in D/s can at best blur the issues of consent and at worst lead to abuse. When I wrote it I had in mind to write a separate post relating how I migrated from the world of fantasy in to a full blown real chastity D/s relationship, which included… Read More »

When the Shackles Come Off

There’s an erotic symbolism when a session starts and she puts on the cuffs.  It’s a first step in the submission to feel the bondage restriction around the wrists.  It sets you up for what’s to come.  Doesn’t matter if it’s to be gentle or hard, the cuffs are a reminder that for this space in time you… Read More »

All Done In The Best Possible Taste

Melody can be a right pain in the arse, she’s inherited a trait from the male side and made an art form of it.