I’ve been haunted by a comment made well over 20 years ago by a domme who first showed me what some of the hitty, hurty things could do. It’s where I discovered how I can go introverted and unable to speak to safeword. As mild as it seems now, I took a lot more than she expected, and… Read More »
Submission, what is it ?? We all have our own ideas and definitions. One of them being that it is giving up “control” to someone else. One of the most commonly expressed sub fantasies is to give up control, hand over total control. It’s the root for “I’ll do anything you want, mistress’, the time waster’s mantra.
Who can remember hiding under the bed sheets trying to tune in a transistor radio ? For some it would have been Radio Luxembourg, for me more likely to be a football commentary from across the continent. Keeping a medium wave station in sync was an art form. Forty-five years later I sometimes think that we haven’t really… Read More »
I have an unexpected quiet day which gives me some leisure to put a few things in better and broader context. The last brainwashing and hypnosis sessions have had effects that I’m still processing and learning. On the back of a fresh foundation of submission, service and obedience driven deeper than ever in the brainwashing, the following hypnosis… Read More »
There’s a common wish fulfilment myth about hypnosis that at the swing of a watch or the snap of a finger that you can be instantly made into somebody or something new. For someone who is struggling this seems to be a deceptively simple solution to all their problems. Instead it can seriously add to the problems.
I love bondage, confinement and sensory deprivation. The tighter the bondage, the greater the feelings of restraint and there are so many variations in how it can be implemented. When it comes to canes, whips and other means of inflicting pain and raising endorphins the mind is very focused on dealing with the immediacy of the pain and… Read More »
What is this submission thing ? What does it actually mean ? Not so long ago I woke up in the middle of the night with my mind whirling like a tornado as it latched on to these questions. Sometimes hypnosis is very subtle in the way it can work on the mind. This was a less than… Read More »
A few weeks back I wrote a post on clearing out the last of the mental garbage associated with the ‘sissy’ label. Around about that time there was a very good post by furcissy analysing the over broad usage of this label in confusing and pejorative ways. It’s a good piece, providing some insights in to the extensive behaviours and… Read More »
I recently published a post Consent & Contracts on how contracts in D/s can at best blur the issues of consent and at worst lead to abuse. When I wrote it I had in mind to write a separate post relating how I migrated from the world of fantasy in to a full blown real chastity D/s relationship, which included… Read More »
There’s an erotic symbolism when a session starts and she puts on the cuffs. It’s a first step in the submission to feel the bondage restriction around the wrists. It sets you up for what’s to come. Doesn’t matter if it’s to be gentle or hard, the cuffs are a reminder that for this space in time you… Read More »