Category Archives: Gender

Asexuality: A Personal Q&A

  You’re asexual, so you hate sex ?  Often that’s about the most informed people are regarding being asexual.  Some think you’re seriously mis-wired, some think you just haven’t met the right partner to bring you out of it. 

Who Do You Think I Am ?

That’s probably not the question you might think it is. What people see is in the eye of the beholder and over the years I have had some fascinating conversations and insights as to what people think they see in melody.

Emotions: Shaken And Stirred

Emotions !!  I fear it’s a topic I will return to again and again. Emotional responses are my clearest means to understanding the flux of melody being in the ascendant. There is an “I” composed of “him” and “melody” along a spectrum.  For the longest time it was comprised almost entirely of “him”.  To the extent that it’s… Read More »

At the Car Wash

It’s a familiar thing these days.  Pull up in the supermarket car park in the crisp early morning and there’s a gang there in overalls and green jackets. You’re going to have to run the gauntlet of the very un-British thing of being asked a direct question by a stranger.  It’s as bad as the bus or the… Read More »

Legs Eleven – Twitter at its Finest

I hadn’t thought of posting today until an exchange on Twitter had melody in a bit of a spin – in a very nice way.

The Personal Pronouns Quagmire

I find this an odd topic to contemplate on a personal level.  I can read articles from people who are very aware of their preferred pronouns and I’ve come to understand why this is an important issue to them.  Having said that, as the combined entity of him and her I am starting to have a strange relationship… Read More »

What Does It Mean To Be Normal ?

I’ve seen posts with many variations of this theme.  People asking themselves if they are normal or perceived as normal.  Indeed, what is normal ?  Obviously, I’ve asked the same questions of myself over the years. I think the question pre-supposes a certain level of self-awareness.  If you never question elements of your own make up in comparison… Read More »

Suckered by Labels, Again.

I’ve been suckered by labels again.  Just when I thought I’d cleaned out the last of them, hubris brings me back to earth.

Gender Fluid Identity

For most of my life I’ve asked questions of myself regarding sexuality and gender.  I have to admit that for many years I never really understood they were separate questions.  Some 25+ years ago I got my first access to the Internet and started to find some answers that I could quite happily live with.

How Do I Know melody is Real ? – Emotions

How real is melody ?  It’s a question I’ve asked myself for years.  In past years the answer would come back that she’s not very real, though her presence might explain some odd quirks of behaviour or feelings that are abnormal for the general personality. In more recent times with the encouragement of hypnosis, she is most definitely… Read More »

A Personal Journey Through D/s Hypnosis – Part 1

I’ve been asked what it feels like to be hypnotised ?  Some are curious and some have read fantasies of erotic mind control stories who wonder how the reality compares.

MELODY’S STORY – part 3, hypnosis in BDSM

This post was originally posted on 20/02/2018 as the last of three guest posts on the PainAsPleasure blog by BibulousOne.  He saw something and encouraged melody to write.  From those small beginnings I’ve graduated to running my own blog. The post can be found at MELODY’S STORY – part 3, hypnosis in BDSM but is reproduced here in it’s entirety.

MELODY’S STORY – part 2 – chastity

This post was originally posted on 27/01/2018 as the second of three guest posts on the PainAsPleasure blog by BibulousOne.  He saw something and encouraged melody to write.  From those small beginnings I’ve graduated to running my own blog. The post can be found at MELODY’S STORY – part 2 – chastity but is reproduced here in it’s entirety.

Fears of Questioning Your Gender and Sexuality – Don’t believe the labels

This post is about my earliest searches for truth about who and what I am.  Hopefully, it may help new subs with similar leanings and questions to get started and slay some of the demons in their heads.

Melody: A Compulsive Shoe Shopper

Heels, they’ve been a fetish since I was very young.   These things grab us, stick in the mind until one day they surface with the desire to explore that fetish.