Category Archives: Non-Kink

The Bon Motto

Reading Time: 2 minutes   When it comes to BDSM I’m more inclined to the principles of RACK than SSC, though either is a vital concept in such relationships for them to be safe(r) and successful. However, although you may not come across these concepts until moving in BDSM circles they’re really just a restatement of something that should already be intrinsic… Read More »

Ripping Yarns

Reading Time: 4 minutes Content Notice References to Peter Sutcliffe The blog by @May_Matters is a great read that is enjoyed by many.  There’s been a wonderful addition to it with posts from her man, Mr More.  These posts evoke my memories of gritty experiences of the 1970’s and 1980’s. The genesis of this post was a lovely tale, Take It Easy and the… Read More »

Memories of The World Trade Center

Reading Time: 4 minutes   Sat in my office that Tuesday afternoon I heard a bubble of noise to look at the news.  Confused as it was, the scenes were horrifying.  A plane had flown in to one of the towers of the WTC.  Back then no one’s first conclusion was terrorism, we must be witnessing a terrible accident. Then we had… Read More »

[F4TFriday] I Write

Reading Time: 4 minutes   I write. For work I’ve written dry technical documents for far too many years.  It’s a feature of the tech world that when someone has spent long enough at the coal face such that they’re quite valuable in that role, they get set to writing documents and specifications about it.  The ability to spell and use grammar… Read More »

[F4TFriday] Live Your Truth

Reading Time: 4 minutes   Let’s face it, the majority of the words we live by are given to us, with varying degrees of force, by people who want to control us, make us conform to their concepts of how we should live.  They are thrown at us all our lives, if we let them.

[F4TFriday] Movies

Reading Time: 4 minutes This prompt is a bit outside my normal thought patterns.  First, the last movie I was interested enough to see in the cinema on its release was Close Encounter of the Third Kind (1977) – yes, it’s been 42 years since I’ve been in a cinema.  And, second, my general lack of interest in sex.  Or in the… Read More »

[F4TFriday] Was / Am I Crazy ?

Reading Time: 4 minutes Am I going crazy ? That wasn’t a totally silly question.  As I now know, melody has been there for a very long time although largely ignored.  The first time she grabbed control and wouldn’t let go was a scary mental episode to come to terms with. I know it’s not a coincidence that she did so a… Read More »

[F4TFriday] That Was Close !!

Reading Time: 4 minutes After recent events and posts it is worthwhile lightening up a little.  What I had in mind to write for this F4TFriday veered off in to an ugliness of spirit that had to be scrapped. Instead, I thought I would be more jovial and visit some of the close calls from my 20+ years of travelling.  International travel… Read More »

Pater Familias

Reading Time: 9 minutes I did something for the first time ever this Father’s Day, I muted the words on Twitter. I don’t mean it was the first time I’d muted these particular words, it was the first time I’d muted anything at all. This is all quite strange because it wasn’t about poignant or hard memories, it was the fact that… Read More »

Me, Myself and I

Reading Time: 3 minutes If you’re a regular reader then you’ll know I discuss various aspects of melody as an increasingly strong persona.  If you’re not a regular reader, this post may not make much sense.  It’s a mood piece and rambles a bit.  A post for me as the audience.

To Galahad – Noun

Reading Time: 4 minutes Going through the draft folder and trying to clean it up, I came across a saved quote from a conversation from months ago.  Recalling that conversation it was about how men randomly and rapidly appear in the timeline of a female and particularly in DMs to offer support, outrage, comfort and a number of other seemingly non-threatening things.… Read More »

Rant #396

Reading Time: 2 minutes If there’s one thing to seriously enrage me in the office over and above the high noise levels it is the sounds and smells of people eating at their desks.

Bank Holiday Silliness

Reading Time: 1 minute Gender dysphoria is often accompanied by body dysmorphia.  For some it’s debilitating.  Fortunately, I only have a light version of it.  I was doing well last year with weight loss until I got seriously ill and ended up putting half of it back on.  I’m finding it depressingly hard to shift. Looking at myself can set off all… Read More »

Reflections

Reading Time: 2 minutes I wasn’t going to acknowledge Mother’s Day, certainly not publicly, until I started seeing various tweets go by.  It struck me just how difficult a day it can be for a lot of people.  There’s an additional poignancy for me in that tomorrow would have been her birthday, too. It’s not that I’ve ignored this sort of remembrance,… Read More »

Random Acceptance

Reading Time: 2 minutes For about 8 months I’ve been waiting for a certain conversation.  Originally dreading the thought of it.  Since Christmas it’s been more of a curiosity in the back of my mind as to what it would feel like.

Parallel Lives

Reading Time: 3 minutes What we perceive to be parallel lines, aren’t.  My technical brain can envisage two things side-by-side going on forever.  The science of perspective tells me I can never actually see this.  The vanishing point in a picture is something to cause wonder.  The works of Vermeer are a wonderful example of putting the parallel in perspective. For myself,… Read More »

One Year On

Reading Time: 2 minutes This is a rather unexpected millmilestone – this blog is one year old. When first committing metaphorical pen to paper it’s easy to believe that you must craft a masterpiece every time.  That way lies madness and one soon learns that you’d never publish anything under that regime. There are three things that really stand out from one… Read More »

Noise Phobic or a Snob ?

Reading Time: 4 minutes I can come across as a right anti-social little bugger.  One of the reasons is that I have low threshold tolerance to ambient noise.  I’ve always been that way and recently it’s got significantly worse.  The trigger for this thought train came from a Twitter thread on films.  It becomes a bit of a joke when similar discussions… Read More »

The Christmas House of Horrors

Reading Time: 5 minutes This post is me cathartically venting.  It is my way of dumping an unpleasant time over Christmas and moving on (until next time). CONTENT WARNING This post contains examples of the stream of consciousness I was subjected to over two days of Christmas.  Be warned that it contains examples of :- Transphobia / Homophobia Racism Misogyny Body shaming… Read More »