Category Archives: Control

Which Gender Identity is Celibate ?

Celibacy – the abstinence from sex. That seems clear cut and cold, yet there’s so much more to it.  Depending on the person involved the reasons for abstinence vary widely. 

Beyond Trust

I tend to get caught up in semantics and precisely what a word means to me.  Lately my thoughts have turned to the word vulnerable and it’s sibling, vulnerability and how my changing perceptions relate to another key word, trust.

Emotions: Shaken And Stirred

Emotions !!  I fear it’s a topic I will return to again and again. Emotional responses are my clearest means to understanding the flux of melody being in the ascendant. There is an “I” composed of “him” and “melody” along a spectrum.  For the longest time it was comprised almost entirely of “him”.  To the extent that it’s… Read More »

Control – The Jedi Mind Trick

Submission, what is it ?? We all have our own ideas and definitions. One of them being that it is giving up “control” to someone else.  One of the most commonly expressed sub fantasies is to give up control, hand over total control.  It’s the root for “I’ll do anything you want, mistress’, the time waster’s mantra.