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The @WhoresofYore account is a treasure trove, combining current sex worker advocacy with fascinating historical context and downright curiosities. She posted this curiosity of a picture which has all sorts of interesting things in it for my own darker kinks, fetishes and desires.
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Love – the last illusion of the illusionless man This quote is from the very end of Le Carre’s Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy. First read in my teen years, I always considered it rather profound. As the years have gone by I’m not so sure that I know what it means now.
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It’s not often you enter the dungeon and get greeted with “God you look awful !” I’ve no idea how I looked, but I sure felt terrible. Sod’s law had come to play. It had been some time since the previous CP session and I’d really been looking forward to this one until my body […]
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Today is a poignant day. Five years ago today I got the 5 am phone call to say that my mother had died. By itself that was not a surprise, the end had been inevitable for some time.
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The other weekend was a trip to Glyndebourne with the former mistress. As well as lots of good food, the Glyndebourne experience (the opera was hit and miss, but this post isn’t a review) and too much alcohol late in to the nights, it was also a time for deep conversation. I must admit that […]
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Before diving in to this one I must state that the post title means me and only me. I’m well aware that many people struggle with loneliness and it can manifest as much in a crowd of people as it can in being alone. They have my sympathies for something that can be very debilitating.
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You read something and it sets off a train of thought and sometimes if you think hard enough it leads to a just a little bit more understanding of your own outlook.
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I love the incongruous in BDSM, the unexpected moments to produce a giggle, the quirky and the downright hilarious. Tension busting moments. Ice breaking moments. This is the first in an occasional series,
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It’s over a week ago since I wrote about about how hard a session of confinement and brainwashing had been. This is quite a hard post to write because I have to admit that it actually took me to some very unexpected places over an extended period of time that take quite a bit of […]
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It becomes a recurring question as to what it is I am doing here ? Not just regarding what I post, but what it is I enjoy reading from other people.
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Six hours in a sleepsack, oblivious to the world sounds wonderfully relaxing, right ? It certainly can be, but when she straps me in, applies the blindfold and places the headphones over my ears there’s an additional element. The headphones are playing a continuous hypnosis loop and will continue to do so for the next […]
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My knowledge and experience of male doms is limited and coloured from the past.
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I love bondage, confinement and sensory deprivation. The tighter the bondage, the greater the feelings of restraint and there are so many variations in how it can be implemented. When it comes to canes, whips and other means of inflicting pain and raising endorphins the mind is very focused on dealing with the immediacy of […]
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I came across this term recently in an article by @DoctorSue. It is a wonderful encapsulation of something I’ve tried to convey myself but failed to reduce it to such a succinct phrase.
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Financial domination has to be one of the more contentious aspects of D/s. On coming across this kink the initial reaction is often one of horror and repugnance. There was a Twitter thread on Sunday started by @_Masterseye about some of the uglier FinDom terminology turning up in her timeline via RT’s. It seems I set myself […]
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I don’t know – you get suckered by the perils of Twitter exchanges where you find you’ve half committed writing a post on the topic in question. Up to now I’ve specifically kept away from the topic of financial domination. Partly because I knew I’d write way too much. Whilst I have mixed views on […]
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I was ruminating on a variation of that old perennial of what would one do if one had the money to be free of the usual responsibilities. Where my mind turned to was that this was a form of fantasy wish fulfilment. Some of those wishes may be grounded in some reality but are generally […]
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I and others sometimes write about the descent in to darkness and dark fantasies that male subs, especially, are prone to. They’re often related to the internalised rationale of ‘I wish someone would make me do that.’
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Time for a minor rant. One of my more unusual posts was about a sploshing session done a couple of months ago. My domme had a picture from that session up on FetLife. The cause of my irritation is that today a new comment appeared under the picture.
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The answer is that there are a surprising number who do so and many many times that number who fantasise about it.
