Category Archives: Opinion

Subs of Convenience

Reading Time: 2 minutes I came across this term recently in an article by @DoctorSue.  It is a wonderful encapsulation of something I’ve tried to convey myself but failed to reduce it to such a succinct phrase.

Thoughts on Financial Domination

Reading Time: 10 minutes I don’t know – you get suckered by the perils of Twitter exchanges where you find you’ve half committed writing a post on the topic in question. Up to now I’ve specifically kept away from the topic of financial domination.  Partly because I knew I’d write way too much.  Whilst I have mixed views on it a lot… Read More »

Excuse me ?!?!

Reading Time: 2 minutes Time for a minor rant. One of my more unusual posts was about a sploshing session done a couple of months ago.  My domme had a picture from that session up on FetLife.  The cause of my irritation is that today a new comment appeared under the picture.

Harmful Language Programs Male Subs

Reading Time: 3 minutes In a previous post I made a reference to the way that the Internet drives sub and especially ‘sissy’ expectations of what they are supposed to be and that it’s been a race to the bottom.

Consent & Contracts

Reading Time: 4 minutes Consent is a topic that’s currently on a lot of people’s minds.  Before diving in to this post I should state that consent is a good thing, there should be consent 100% of the time one is engaged.  How consent is maintained, updated and revoked is heavily nuanced by the circumstances and the people involved. 

Mrs Silk: An Unintentional Pioneer

Reading Time: 5 minutes For those of us of a certain age and who had early Internet access Mrs Silk was a revelation and a pioneer.  It’s seems that her achievements were rather accidental as she never really capitalised on them.  That’s often the way with pioneers, they start something but it takes others to really make it a success.

Why I Don’t Like de Sade

Reading Time: 2 minutes This may be a contentious view for some of my potential audience.

Yes, I am a submissive and see a domme for what can be quite intense D/s.  So what have I got against de Sade ?

The Gresham’s Law of Online BDSM

Reading Time: 5 minutes I have a theory about what the Internet has done to the expectations of both dommes and subs as to what BDSM really is.  I’ve given potted versions to various people but now I have my own space I can fully elaborate.