An Apology To (some) Doms
Reading Time: 2 minutes My knowledge and experience of male doms is limited and coloured from the past.
Category Archives: Opinion
Subs of Convenience
Reading Time: 2 minutes I came across this term recently in an article by @DoctorSue. It is a wonderful encapsulation of something I’ve tried to convey myself but failed to reduce it to such a succinct phrase.
Thoughts on Financial Domination
Reading Time: 10 minutes I don’t know – you get suckered by the perils of Twitter exchanges where you find you’ve half committed writing a post on the topic in question. Up to now I’ve specifically kept away from the topic of financial domination. Partly because I knew I’d write way too much. Whilst I have mixed views on it a lot… Read More »
Excuse me ?!?!
Reading Time: 2 minutes Time for a minor rant. One of my more unusual posts was about a sploshing session done a couple of months ago. My domme had a picture from that session up on FetLife. The cause of my irritation is that today a new comment appeared under the picture.
Who’d Get Locked in Chastity ?
Reading Time: 5 minutes The answer is that there are a surprising number who do so and many many times that number who fantasise about it.
Why Do I Write This Blog ?
Reading Time: 3 minutes Being the flippant bugger I am, that question brings to mind the Bill Hicks Waffle House routine.
Women Rarely Know How Intimidating They Are
Reading Time: 3 minutes This post is inspired by a conversation this week with a lovely blogging lady. I’m speaking of when I grew up. I can’t speak for current generations, but the indications are that the gap in male understanding of females is wider and more unbridgeable than ever.
Harmful Language Programs Male Subs
Reading Time: 3 minutes In a previous post I made a reference to the way that the Internet drives sub and especially ‘sissy’ expectations of what they are supposed to be and that it’s been a race to the bottom.
Consent & Contracts
Reading Time: 4 minutes Consent is a topic that’s currently on a lot of people’s minds. Before diving in to this post I should state that consent is a good thing, there should be consent 100% of the time one is engaged. How consent is maintained, updated and revoked is heavily nuanced by the circumstances and the people involved.
What Does It Mean To Be Normal ?
Reading Time: 5 minutes I’ve seen posts with many variations of this theme. People asking themselves if they are normal or perceived as normal. Indeed, what is normal ? Obviously, I’ve asked the same questions of myself over the years. I think the question pre-supposes a certain level of self-awareness. If you never question elements of your own make up in comparison… Read More »
It’s a Wonder That Any D/s Relationship Gets off the Ground
Reading Time: 3 minutes I can’t speak for female subs, but the drivers for a male sub can be pathological. At some level we are all seeking attention.
The Dark Side of Humanity is Darker Than Ever
Reading Time: 5 minutes This post is not about D/s nor is it funny. It’s about being angry at a re-awakening to the dark, vicious and sick side of humanity. Please move on if you’re looking to be amused. This is not an easy post.
Ok Melody, Where’s the Sex ?
Reading Time: 2 minutes Good question.
Mrs Silk: An Unintentional Pioneer
Reading Time: 5 minutes For those of us of a certain age and who had early Internet access Mrs Silk was a revelation and a pioneer. It’s seems that her achievements were rather accidental as she never really capitalised on them. That’s often the way with pioneers, they start something but it takes others to really make it a success.
Why I Don’t Like de Sade
Reading Time: 2 minutes This may be a contentious view for some of my potential audience.
Yes, I am a submissive and see a domme for what can be quite intense D/s. So what have I got against de Sade ?
You Don’t Need A Collar To Be An Owned Submissive
Reading Time: 3 minutes I was given a collar once, you know. It didn’t work out too well at the time. Despite having submissive leanings for years before meeting this lifestyle chastity domme I had a lot to unlearn before I could learn properly what it meant to be a sub.
The Gresham’s Law of Online BDSM
Reading Time: 5 minutes I have a theory about what the Internet has done to the expectations of both dommes and subs as to what BDSM really is. I’ve given potted versions to various people but now I have my own space I can fully elaborate.
On The Death of Leonard Cohen
Reading Time: 6 minutes Leonard Cohen was one cool dude. I wrote some words on hearing of his death and I reproduce them here with added images.
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