Category Archives: Personal

Roleplay

Reading Time: 3 minutes Roleplay. Some love it and some hate it, so this week we are asking you for your thoughts and experience. Is it something you use to push your boundaries and explore the kinks you share, or something you have found just doesn’t work for you. Whatever your thoughts on this creative kink, we would love to hear about… Read More »

Exceptions Make The Rule

Reading Time: < 1 minute A while back I wrote that melody doesn’t wear red, except for shoes and nails.  That still holds true. With four days available to be melody, including two in public, it’s worth taking the time over the nails. It’s a level of sinful decadence she’s not often able to indulge.    

Teaching Poker to a Dog

Reading Time: 4 minutes Here’s the thing – I don’t understand this word dominance. For sure, I know what it means, just as I know all too well what it feels like to be on the receiving end of dominance. What I mean is that I do not understand what it is to be dominant in a D/s context.  I don’t understand… Read More »

Bank Holiday Silliness

Reading Time: < 1 minute Gender dysphoria is often accompanied by body dysmorphia.  For some it’s debilitating.  Fortunately, I only have a light version of it.  I was doing well last year with weight loss until I got seriously ill and ended up putting half of it back on.  I’m finding it depressingly hard to shift. Looking at myself can set off all… Read More »

Do I Love or Hate Pain ? – Yes

Reading Time: 3 minutes I don’t watch or browse porn.  I certainly used to.  If I had to put my finger on it, the (never intense) interest in porn waned as the chastity lifestyle took hold and other parts of my makeup that I now recognise had a chance to incubate and then germinate. If someone pointed me at a video, I… Read More »

It’s Just Banter, Isn’t It?

Reading Time: 5 minutes Content / Trigger Warning Sexual Harassment Rape Male victims This piece goes outside my usual themes.  Over the years I’ve heard a lot in public and in confidence about the struggles and consequences of women with male behaviour ranging from the unthinking harassment of ‘banter’ to full on sexual, physical and mental aggression. My sympathy, empathy and support… Read More »

My Lifestyle Rules

Reading Time: 3 minutes I’ve spent some time considering this simple word and frankly, I must be a disappointment in this respect. I first encountered online forums some 25 years ago and if you want obsessive rules, these are still the places to go.  Whether it was the high protocol rooms on IRC – ‘slave must kneel and ask permission to enter… Read More »

Castration Fetish

Reading Time: 6 minutes Content Warning NSFW cartoon of FemDom castration (at the end) This post can be blamed on @PosyChurchgate.  She commented on my Asexuality post and made the mistake of asking me to expand on castration fetish. It’s the sort of topic that elicits sniggers and winces and yet, surprisingly, it also garners more quiet interest than you might think. … Read More »

A Personal Journey Through D/s Hypnosis – Part 10, You Do It To Yourself

Reading Time: 3 minutes Hypnosis – You do it to yourself. The sub-conscious acts on the suggestions it wants to, those compatible with its desires and fantasies.  The hypnotist can’t make you want incompatible things, but they can manipulate the intensity of your desire to facilitate their suggestions for things you knowingly and unknowingly want, lowering barriers to adoption and implementation. The… Read More »

Reflections

Reading Time: 2 minutes I wasn’t going to acknowledge Mother’s Day, certainly not publicly, until I started seeing various tweets go by.  It struck me just how difficult a day it can be for a lot of people.  There’s an additional poignancy for me in that tomorrow would have been her birthday, too. It’s not that I’ve ignored this sort of remembrance,… Read More »

One Year On

Reading Time: 2 minutes This is a rather unexpected millmilestone – this blog is one year old. When first committing metaphorical pen to paper it’s easy to believe that you must craft a masterpiece every time.  That way lies madness and one soon learns that you’d never publish anything under that regime. There are three things that really stand out from one… Read More »