A few weeks back I wrote a post on clearing out the last of the mental garbage associated with the ‘sissy’ label. Around about that time there was a very good post by furcissy analysing the over broad usage of this label in confusing and pejorative ways. It’s a good piece, providing some insights in to the extensive behaviours and… Read More »
I recently published a post Consent & Contracts on how contracts in D/s can at best blur the issues of consent and at worst lead to abuse. When I wrote it I had in mind to write a separate post relating how I migrated from the world of fantasy in to a full blown real chastity D/s relationship, which included… Read More »
I find this an odd topic to contemplate on a personal level. I can read articles from people who are very aware of their preferred pronouns and I’ve come to understand why this is an important issue to them. Having said that, as the combined entity of him and her I am starting to have a strange relationship… Read More »
I thought it time to write of the first domme I knew in the flesh as there’s an unexpected twist to the tale.
I’ve seen posts with many variations of this theme. People asking themselves if they are normal or perceived as normal. Indeed, what is normal ? Obviously, I’ve asked the same questions of myself over the years. I think the question pre-supposes a certain level of self-awareness. If you never question elements of your own make up in comparison… Read More »
I’ve been suckered by labels again. Just when I thought I’d cleaned out the last of them, hubris brings me back to earth.
The break up wasn’t a break up in the traditional sense. No drama, no acrimony. Simply a flow from one state to another. In the first state she was an active domme and in the second, she wasn’t. In the first state I was her sub, in the second, a close friend.
This post is not about D/s nor is it funny. It’s about being angry at a re-awakening to the dark, vicious and sick side of humanity. Please move on if you’re looking to be amused. This is not an easy post.
For most of my life I’ve asked questions of myself regarding sexuality and gender. I have to admit that for many years I never really understood they were separate questions. Some 25+ years ago I got my first access to the Internet and started to find some answers that I could quite happily live with.
How real is melody ? It’s a question I’ve asked myself for years. In past years the answer would come back that she’s not very real, though her presence might explain some odd quirks of behaviour or feelings that are abnormal for the general personality. In more recent times with the encouragement of hypnosis, she is most definitely… Read More »
This post was originally posted on 20/02/2018 as the last of three guest posts on the PainAsPleasure blog by BibulousOne. He saw something and encouraged melody to write. From those small beginnings I’ve graduated to running my own blog. The post can be found at MELODY’S STORY – part 3, hypnosis in BDSM but is reproduced here in it’s entirety.
This is not my usual fare, it’s something of a self indulgence. Today would have been my mother’s 78th birthday. She was born in South London a matter of weeks before the Luftwaffe started dropping bombs on London.
This post was originally posted on 27/01/2018 as the second of three guest posts on the PainAsPleasure blog by BibulousOne. He saw something and encouraged melody to write. From those small beginnings I’ve graduated to running my own blog. The post can be found at MELODY’S STORY – part 2 – chastity but is reproduced here in it’s entirety.
This post was originally posted on 2/01/2018 as the first of three guest posts on the PainAsPleasure blog by BibulousOne. He saw something and encouraged melody to write. From those small beginnings I’ve graduated to running my own blog. The post can be found at MELODY’s STORY, PART 1 – Submission but is reproduced here in it’s entirety.
I see some useful blogs and Twitter threads go by providing advice in how to approach and behave towards a domme. Or how the newly (and not so newly) curious might take the first steps to seeing their dreams and fantasies be played out in reality. This post looks at some of the same things but from a… Read More »