I love bondage, confinement and sensory deprivation. The tighter the bondage, the greater the feelings of restraint and there are so many variations in how it can be implemented. When it comes to canes, whips and other means of inflicting pain and raising endorphins the mind is very focused on dealing with the immediacy of the pain and… Read More »
I was ruminating on a variation of that old perennial of what would one do if one had the money to be free of the usual responsibilities. Where my mind turned to was that this was a form of fantasy wish fulfilment. Some of those wishes may be grounded in some reality but are generally unobtainable for now.… Read More »
The late 1960’s comedy had lots of great television and radio performers revolving through lots of different programs. For that reason I had to look up where this sketch came from. It’s actually from “It’s Marty”, performed by Marty Feldman and Tim Brooke-Taylor. What brought it to mind this time was a telephone call with the father. Any… Read More »
I don’t usually post about a session experience until some time has passed to put it in to context and understand what I learned. This time is a bit different, it’s written the day after and there’s a big element of sub drop. However, tiredness and lethargy don’t stop me thinking and I thought it might be interesting… Read More »
A few weeks back I wrote a post on clearing out the last of the mental garbage associated with the ‘sissy’ label. Around about that time there was a very good post by furcissy analysing the over broad usage of this label in confusing and pejorative ways. It’s a good piece, providing some insights in to the extensive behaviours and… Read More »
I recently published a post Consent & Contracts on how contracts in D/s can at best blur the issues of consent and at worst lead to abuse. When I wrote it I had in mind to write a separate post relating how I migrated from the world of fantasy in to a full blown real chastity D/s relationship, which included… Read More »
I find this an odd topic to contemplate on a personal level. I can read articles from people who are very aware of their preferred pronouns and I’ve come to understand why this is an important issue to them. Having said that, as the combined entity of him and her I am starting to have a strange relationship… Read More »
I thought it time to write of the first domme I knew in the flesh as there’s an unexpected twist to the tale.
I’ve seen posts with many variations of this theme. People asking themselves if they are normal or perceived as normal. Indeed, what is normal ? Obviously, I’ve asked the same questions of myself over the years. I think the question pre-supposes a certain level of self-awareness. If you never question elements of your own make up in comparison… Read More »
I’ve been suckered by labels again. Just when I thought I’d cleaned out the last of them, hubris brings me back to earth.
The break up wasn’t a break up in the traditional sense. No drama, no acrimony. Simply a flow from one state to another. In the first state she was an active domme and in the second, she wasn’t. In the first state I was her sub, in the second, a close friend.
This post is not about D/s nor is it funny. It’s about being angry at a re-awakening to the dark, vicious and sick side of humanity. Please move on if you’re looking to be amused. This is not an easy post.