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It’s really hard to consider that the activities you enjoy are edge play. You are comfortable embarking on them even though you know how difficult or stressful they can end up being. And yet, the eye of the beholder can be illuminating.
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I’ve had a lot of confusion over the years about romance. Growing up, so much propaganda gets bombarded at us. Be good, be dutiful, follow the norms of your parents and grand-parents and you, too, will live the Stepford dream of romance and the perfect partner.
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Kindness is a River Kindness is a River that quenches the land Kindness is a River that extends a hand Kindness is a River that flows across clay Kindness is a River that will find its own way Kindness is a River that gathers speed Kindness is a River that everyone needs Kindness is a […]
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Pain – Now there’s a word that splits me in two. In general terms, I hate pain. Even mild discomfort is something I avoid in daily life. When it comes to D/s, it’s a whole different ball game. It gives both my current domme and my former mistress a giggle to bracket me as […]
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This post, published just before Christmas wasn’t linked to any prompt. Very timely that May and Floss have “2019 in a Nutshell” as the #F4T prompt to end the year. With Christmas being somewhat crap, re-reading this post of only 10 days ago provides a larger perspective on how good a year 2019 has been […]
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Now that’s a scary title reference. Here I am trying to be culturally topical except that on checking I find that TW3 aired even before I was born 😱 !! For the blog this has been a year of consolidation. It’s first full January to December. The first year of it being part of […]
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Good grief !!! Is that a cue for me to actually write smut ? Hmmm … perhaps tangentially. Fantasies can be odd, they are, of course, intensely personal images, feelings and sensations from the darkest recesses of the mind – veritable monsters from the Id.
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I’m Not A Slave – I was Bamboozled There are parts of my mind I can never reopen. Parts of my mind that need to stay locked. The parts that opened, I now realise, were burgeoning with subliminal messages and possibly drowning in confusion of discovering I liked the kink he showed me (without consent) […]
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As a sub the reset is a hard and salutary experience. I went through one such experience early in my D/s path, it was a very painful lesson.
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For many subs of all genders a collar is the ultimate visible expression of being owned by their dominant. It (usually) signifies mutual commitment and having achieved a level of submission within a relationship that the dominant wants to recognise.
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Humiliation play, this is an awkward one. Done within consensual, negotiated boundaries there’s a fair number will safely enjoy this type of play. I recently became reacquainted with an old post by @_floss_84 on cuckolding that includes a passage on the humiliation aspect that I asked to reproduce for this piece. Humiliation – Why have I, after saying […]
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Roleplay. Some love it and some hate it, so this week we are asking you for your thoughts and experience. Is it something you use to push your boundaries and explore the kinks you share, or something you have found just doesn’t work for you. Whatever your thoughts on this creative kink, we would love […]
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Here’s the thing – I don’t understand this word dominance. For sure, I know what it means, just as I know all too well what it feels like to be on the receiving end of dominance. What I mean is that I do not understand what it is to be dominant in a D/s context. […]
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I wrote a piece on trust at the beginning of the year. This #TellMeAbout prompt allows me to reassess a few things and be clear, at least in my own mind, as to what my own personal nuances around trust mean. Trust is a strange commodity. I was going to write that I don’t have […]
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For me the term spanking is not, as it might be for others, a short sharp punishment. It’s not a six of the best to highlight a broken rule. For me it’s part of a highly intimate dance over one or perhaps two hours in a CP session. The actual spanking part is an intermediate […]
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I’ve spent some time considering this simple word and frankly, I must be a disappointment in this respect. I first encountered online forums some 25 years ago and if you want obsessive rules, these are still the places to go. Whether it was the high protocol rooms on IRC – ‘slave must kneel and ask […]