Self Indulgent Post – II
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Today is a poignant day. Five years ago today I got the 5 am phone call to say that my mother had died. By itself that was not a surprise, the end had been inevitable for some time.
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Nodal Involvement
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The other weekend was a trip to Glyndebourne with the former mistress. As well as lots of good food, the Glyndebourne experience (the opera was hit and miss, but this post isn’t a review) and too much alcohol late in to the nights, it was also a time for deep conversation. I must admit that […]
Solitary Isn’t Lonely
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Before diving in to this one I must state that the post title means me and only me. I’m well aware that many people struggle with loneliness and it can manifest as much in a crowd of people as it can in being alone. They have my sympathies for something that can be very debilitating.
Colour, Style & Image. A Work In Progress.
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You read something and it sets off a train of thought and sometimes if you think hard enough it leads to a just a little bit more understanding of your own outlook.
An Apology To (some) Doms
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My knowledge and experience of male doms is limited and coloured from the past.
The Leisure of Slow Bondage
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I love bondage, confinement and sensory deprivation. The tighter the bondage, the greater the feelings of restraint and there are so many variations in how it can be implemented. When it comes to canes, whips and other means of inflicting pain and raising endorphins the mind is very focused on dealing with the immediacy of […]
Wish Fulfilment vs Reality
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I was ruminating on a variation of that old perennial of what would one do if one had the money to be free of the usual responsibilities. Where my mind turned to was that this was a form of fantasy wish fulfilment. Some of those wishes may be grounded in some reality but are generally […]
Funny He Never Married
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The late 1960’s comedy had lots of great television and radio performers revolving through lots of different programs. For that reason I had to look up where this sketch came from. It’s actually from “It’s Marty”, performed by Marty Feldman and Tim Brooke-Taylor. What brought it to mind this time was a telephone call with […]
Legs Eleven – Twitter at its Finest
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I hadn’t thought of posting today until an exchange on Twitter had melody in a bit of a spin – in a very nice way.
The Sexuality Question
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That late teen rite of passage, the first visits to a nightclub. I’ve no fond memories of it. I recall migrating to a dark corner nursing a pint glass and surveying what was going on around me. The deafening sound system, the delight in abandon so apparent in everyone, the drinking to oblivion.
A Personal Journey Through D/s Hypnosis – Part 3, Whose Thoughts Are They ?
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To continue this occasional series, I thought I’d touch on a common misperception about hypnosis. It’s the idea that the subject must be so weak-willed that they are overcome by the hypnotist and subject to their will and the suggestions or thoughts implanted by hypnosis.
Why Do I Write This Blog ?
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Being the flippant bugger I am, that question brings to mind the Bill Hicks Waffle House routine.
An Endorphin High – Without Pain
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I don’t usually post about a session experience until some time has passed to put it in to context and understand what I learned. This time is a bit different, it’s written the day after and there’s a big element of sub drop. However, tiredness and lethargy don’t stop me thinking and I thought it […]
Innate Feminine Skills – Not Quite a Closed Door
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As one tries to look feminine it becomes apparent that there seem to be lots of skills that females perform as if innate magic knowledge was placed inside them at birth. That there ought to be some magic wand you can touch to transfer those skills.
A Personal Journey Through D/s Hypnosis – Part 2, The Sub-Conscious
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The sub-conscious is a fantastic thing to explore and I’m still not really sure what it actually is. In recognising what I call my sub-conscious it has certainly given me more understanding and confidence both with hypnosis and beyond.
A Squalid Ocean of Abuse – The Sissy
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A few weeks back I wrote a post on clearing out the last of the mental garbage associated with the ‘sissy’ label. Around about that time there was a very good post by furcissy analysing the over broad usage of this label in confusing and pejorative ways. It’s a good piece, providing some insights in to the […]
The Making (and Breaking) of a Chastity Sub
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I recently published a post Consent & Contracts on how contracts in D/s can at best blur the issues of consent and at worst lead to abuse. When I wrote it I had in mind to write a separate post relating how I migrated from the world of fantasy in to a full blown real chastity D/s […]
The Personal Pronouns Quagmire
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I find this an odd topic to contemplate on a personal level. I can read articles from people who are very aware of their preferred pronouns and I’ve come to understand why this is an important issue to them. Having said that, as the combined entity of him and her I am starting to have […]
Memories of a Special Person
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I thought it time to write of the first domme I knew in the flesh as there’s an unexpected twist to the tale.
What Does It Mean To Be Normal ?
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I’ve seen posts with many variations of this theme. People asking themselves if they are normal or perceived as normal. Indeed, what is normal ? Obviously, I’ve asked the same questions of myself over the years. I think the question pre-supposes a certain level of self-awareness. If you never question elements of your own make […]