The Personal Pronouns Quagmire

I find this an odd topic to contemplate on a personal level.  I can read articles from people who are very aware of their preferred pronouns and I’ve come to understand why this is an important issue to them.  Having said that, as the combined entity of him and her I am starting to have a strange relationship… Read More »

When the Shackles Come Off

There’s an erotic symbolism when a session starts and she puts on the cuffs.  It’s a first step in the submission to feel the bondage restriction around the wrists.  It sets you up for what’s to come.  Doesn’t matter if it’s to be gentle or hard, the cuffs are a reminder that for this space in time you… Read More »

Memories of a Special Person

I thought it time to write of the first domme I knew in the flesh as there’s an unexpected twist to the tale.

What Does It Mean To Be Normal ?

I’ve seen posts with many variations of this theme.  People asking themselves if they are normal or perceived as normal.  Indeed, what is normal ?  Obviously, I’ve asked the same questions of myself over the years. I think the question pre-supposes a certain level of self-awareness.  If you never question elements of your own make up in comparison… Read More »

In Which Melody Exposes Herself

A couple of months ago I had a special type of session, providing more fun than I had any right to expect.

Suckered by Labels, Again.

I’ve been suckered by labels again.  Just when I thought I’d cleaned out the last of them, hubris brings me back to earth.

It’s a Wonder That Any D/s Relationship Gets off the Ground

I can’t speak for female subs, but the drivers for a male sub can be pathological.  At some level we are all seeking attention. 

Can You Repair a Broken Soul ?

The break up wasn’t a break up in the traditional sense.  No drama, no acrimony.  Simply a flow from one state to another.  In the first state she was an active domme and in the second, she wasn’t.  In the first state I was her sub, in the second, a close friend.  

All Done In The Best Possible Taste

Melody can be a right pain in the arse, she’s inherited a trait from the male side and made an art form of it.

The Dark Side of Humanity is Darker Than Ever

This post is not about D/s nor is it funny.  It’s about being angry at a re-awakening to the dark, vicious and sick side of humanity.  Please move on if you’re looking to be amused.  This is not an easy post.

What Do You Mean, You Want To Be Forced ?

That’s the silent question in a domme’s head every time they hear a sub asking for forced-bi or forced-feminisation.

The Mark of Cane

Depending on your point of view I am one of those people, fortunate or unfortunate enough to heal quickly from BDSM punishment.  Or more correctly, for the visible marks to fade quickly.  Usually the deeper pain will also be gone quite rapidly unless she does something dramatic that borders on being a bit dangerous.

Gender Fluid Identity

For most of my life I’ve asked questions of myself regarding sexuality and gender.  I have to admit that for many years I never really understood they were separate questions.  Some 25+ years ago I got my first access to the Internet and started to find some answers that I could quite happily live with.

D/s Hypnosis – Where’s the Limit ?

My original series of posts for PainAsPleasure was recently reposted on this blog  MELODY’S STORY – part 3, hypnosis in BDSM and I am very grateful to one concerned commenter with whom there was a wonderful conversation allowing me to expand on the safety aspects that aren’t apparent in the posts on hypnosis.

A Different Type of Session

The only time I’ve ever known, even on only the most general level, as to what a session will include is the time she was breaking a hard limit and introducing me to needle play

Ok Melody, Where’s the Sex ?

Good question. 

3 Types of Flagellants

A while back I saw a tweet from the inestimable @WhoresOfYore and made a note of it at the time.  If you’ve never followed her, I highly recommend that you do.  

Melody The Size Queen

Well, that title got your attention !!! This is a slightly unusual post.  It’s all too easy to ignore or play down personal achievements.  For once, melody just wants to be bold in celebrating a personal achievement.

Taking your kink to work

It’s the little things that can thrill or amuse.  There are the things that you might try in order to experience the thrill of potential discovery.  And there are the things that can be seen and assumed to be normal.

A Letter to my 16 Year Old Self

It’s a bit of a fad, so I thought I’d give it a go. Dear M, You won’t recognise me, though I recognise you all too well.