Roleplay

Reading Time: 3 minutes Roleplay. Some love it and some hate it, so this week we are asking you for your thoughts and experience. Is it something you use to push your boundaries and explore the kinks you share, or something you have found just doesn’t work for you. Whatever your thoughts on this creative kink, we would love to hear about… Read More »

SwirlingFire: Laughter, Tears, Twisted Thoughts and Fears

Reading Time: 3 minutes Laughter, Tears, Twisted Thoughts and Fears Current status: sat in coffee shop reviewing Wicked Wednesday entries for prompt 365 -Laughter Laughing and giggling with an almost four year old and his little brother Charlie.  The innocence of childhood in an apparent happy family unit.  Both little boys were animated in their conversation with me, from the next table… Read More »

Snake Bite

Reading Time: 4 minutes The CP sessions with the domme started some months after the hypnosis.  Even so it’s nearly three years since that first one.  After the latest CP session (yesterday at time of starting this post) I’ve had time to reflect on how much I’ve changed and accomplished in those three years. That first CP session was my first in… Read More »

[F4TFriday] Room 101

Reading Time: 4 minutes Orwell’s book is an oft mis-quoted book by people who have obviously never actually read it.  I must have first read it when I was about 13, one of the most frightening books I have ever read. I don’t recall the TV adaptation, nor the film with John Hurt, though I love Terry Gilliam’s Brazil which captures the… Read More »

Exceptions Make The Rule

Reading Time: < 1 minute A while back I wrote that melody doesn’t wear red, except for shoes and nails.  That still holds true. With four days available to be melody, including two in public, it’s worth taking the time over the nails. It’s a level of sinful decadence she’s not often able to indulge.    

To Galahad – Noun

Reading Time: 4 minutes Going through the draft folder and trying to clean it up, I came across a saved quote from a conversation from months ago.  Recalling that conversation it was about how men randomly and rapidly appear in the timeline of a female and particularly in DMs to offer support, outrage, comfort and a number of other seemingly non-threatening things.… Read More »

Teaching Poker to a Dog

Reading Time: 4 minutes Here’s the thing – I don’t understand this word dominance. For sure, I know what it means, just as I know all too well what it feels like to be on the receiving end of dominance. What I mean is that I do not understand what it is to be dominant in a D/s context.  I don’t understand… Read More »

SwirlingFire: Laughter

Reading Time: 2 minutes #WickedWednesday Prompt #365 – Laughter This Shirley temple giggle gif is probably the one I’m known for using most frequently – when I’ve genuinely giggled with a tweet thread. Extract: During a laugh, respiration, heart rate and blood pressure temporarily rise. This causes oxygen to surge through the bloodstream that then results in lower blood pressure. Laughter improves… Read More »

We Are Living On Forbidden Planet

Reading Time: 2 minutes The civilised Krell destroyed themselves by creating a network where they could express their deepest thoughts and desires.  The machine behind the network could turn these thoughts and desires in to physical manifestations. The Krell wiped themselves out overnight due to the ‘monsters from the Id’ being made manifest. Does this sound familiar ? Human civilisation is the… Read More »

SwirlingFire: The Request

Reading Time: 7 minutes The Request I’ve never made a secret of my introduction into the depraved and darkly delicious addictive ways of a malevolent dom of shady intentions.  I think I’ve written more than thirty blogs about the ways I was manipulated and coerced into a non-consensual D/s “affair” – which, upon reflection can be termed as “CNC”. I’m using this… Read More »

New Role #SB4MH

Reading Time: < 1 minute Some of you may have seen that I am a new member of the team at Sex Bloggers for Mental Health.  Thank you @SassyCat3000 and @May_Matters for inviting me onto the team.

Rant #396

Reading Time: 2 minutes If there’s one thing to seriously enrage me in the office over and above the high noise levels it is the sounds and smells of people eating at their desks.

Pistanthrophobia

Reading Time: 4 minutes I wrote a piece on trust at the beginning of the year.  This #TellMeAbout prompt allows me to reassess a few things and be clear, at least in my own mind, as to what my own personal nuances around trust mean. Trust is a strange commodity.  I was going to write that I don’t have any in the… Read More »

SwirlingFire: Ignite

Reading Time: 7 minutes Ignite Emotional abusers within the BDSM community are moving amongst us. They’re well known yet continue to “operate” shielded by sycophants.  Often known as an “enabler” DM conversations have repeated the same names.  Over and over again.  Some of my online experiences (I’ll take 50%) have been through misunderstandings. Mine and theirs. I don’t give offence, it’s taken. If I’ve… Read More »

Who Do You Want In Your Corner ?

Reading Time: 4 minutes In this age of online social media it’s not uncommon for people, especially kids, to say that they have hundreds of friends.  Those of us slightly older remember the sage advice that if you can reach the end of your life counting true friends on the fingers of more than one hand, then you’ve been well served in… Read More »

Stepping Out

Reading Time: 4 minutes There are different types of hypnosis sessions and my favourite is the real-time session.  These are the same format as the online webcam sessions, except that we’re in the same room and about three feet apart.  There’s an added element of intimacy to these sessions.  She can play more with her voice in the confidence that technology won’t… Read More »

SwirlingFire: Gaslighting & Ghosting

Reading Time: 4 minutes Gaslighting & Ghosting 7 Stages of Gaslighting in a Relationship The term originates from the Film ‘Fanny by Gaslight’ – A charming and handsome man with a dastardly past exploits his knowledge of her family history to manipulate an innocent young woman. 

Boiling A Frog

Reading Time: 4 minutes For me the term spanking is not, as it might be for others, a short sharp punishment.  It’s not a six of the best to highlight a broken rule.  For me it’s part of a highly intimate dance over one or perhaps two hours in a CP session. The actual spanking part is an intermediate stage in a… Read More »

SwirlingFire: Clique Bait

Reading Time: 6 minutes   Clique Bait I’ve been thinking about the way I express myself quite a lot lately.  Especially in the speedy way that Twitter makes my mind race too fast.  I’ve mentioned in the past that what passes for my extremely dry/gallows/friendly sarcasm in real life is greatly skewed in typed form.  Intonation, giggle, smiles and reciprocated put downs… Read More »