The Mark of Cane

Depending on your point of view I am one of those people, fortunate or unfortunate enough to heal quickly from BDSM punishment.  Or more correctly, for the visible marks to fade quickly.  Usually the deeper pain will also be gone quite rapidly unless she does something dramatic that borders on being a bit dangerous.

Gender Fluid Identity

For most of my life I’ve asked questions of myself regarding sexuality and gender.  I have to admit that for many years I never really understood they were separate questions.  Some 25+ years ago I got my first access to the Internet and started to find some answers that I could quite happily live with.

D/s Hypnosis – Where’s the Limit ?

My original series of posts for PainAsPleasure was recently reposted on this blog  MELODY’S STORY – part 3, hypnosis in BDSM and I am very grateful to one concerned commenter with whom there was a wonderful conversation allowing me to expand on the safety aspects that aren’t apparent in the posts on hypnosis.

A Different Type of Session

The only time I’ve ever known, even on only the most general level, as to what a session will include is the time she was breaking a hard limit and introducing me to needle play

Ok Melody, Where’s the Sex ?

Good question. 

3 Types of Flagellants

A while back I saw a tweet from the inestimable @WhoresOfYore and made a note of it at the time.  If you’ve never followed her, I highly recommend that you do.  

Melody The Size Queen

Well, that title got your attention !!! This is a slightly unusual post.  It’s all too easy to ignore or play down personal achievements.  For once, melody just wants to be bold in celebrating a personal achievement.

Taking your kink to work

It’s the little things that can thrill or amuse.  There are the things that you might try in order to experience the thrill of potential discovery.  And there are the things that can be seen and assumed to be normal.

A Letter to my 16 Year Old Self

It’s a bit of a fad, so I thought I’d give it a go. Dear M, You won’t recognise me, though I recognise you all too well.

How Do I Know melody is Real ? – Emotions

How real is melody ?  It’s a question I’ve asked myself for years.  In past years the answer would come back that she’s not very real, though her presence might explain some odd quirks of behaviour or feelings that are abnormal for the general personality. In more recent times with the encouragement of hypnosis, she is most definitely… Read More »

A Personal Journey Through D/s Hypnosis – Part 1

I’ve been asked what it feels like to be hypnotised ?  Some are curious and some have read fantasies of erotic mind control stories who wonder how the reality compares.

MELODY’S STORY – part 3, hypnosis in BDSM

This post was originally posted on 20/02/2018 as the last of three guest posts on the PainAsPleasure blog by BibulousOne.  He saw something and encouraged melody to write.  From those small beginnings I’ve graduated to running my own blog. The post can be found at MELODY’S STORY – part 3, hypnosis in BDSM but is reproduced here in it’s entirety.

Self-Indulgent Post.

This is not my usual fare, it’s something of a self indulgence. Today would have been my mother’s 78th birthday.  She was born in South London a matter of weeks before the Luftwaffe started dropping bombs on London. 

MELODY’S STORY – part 2 – chastity

This post was originally posted on 27/01/2018 as the second of three guest posts on the PainAsPleasure blog by BibulousOne.  He saw something and encouraged melody to write.  From those small beginnings I’ve graduated to running my own blog. The post can be found at MELODY’S STORY – part 2 – chastity but is reproduced here in it’s entirety.

MELODY’S STORY, PART 1 – submission

This post was originally posted on 2/01/2018 as the first of three guest posts on the PainAsPleasure blog by BibulousOne.  He saw something and encouraged melody to write.  From those small beginnings I’ve graduated to running my own blog. The post can be found at MELODY’s STORY, PART 1 – Submission but is reproduced here in it’s entirety.

This Is Not The Domme You Are Looking For

I see some useful blogs and Twitter threads go by providing advice in how to approach and behave towards a domme.  Or how the newly (and not so newly) curious might take the first steps to seeing their dreams and fantasies be played out in reality. This post looks at some of the same things but from a… Read More »

Are You Shadowbanned ? Or Jumping to Conclusions ?

The issue of shadowbanning on Twitter seems to have hit a level of consciousness that at times reminds of the days when fat fingers would do something unexpected on a computer and the immediate conclusion people would jump to was that they had been infected with a mysterious virus. I’ve recently pointed a number of people at a… Read More »

The Bitter Sweetness of the End

The scene is set in The Grand Hotel in Brighton.  The elegant sweeping staircase leading up from the plush and busy lobby.  The rooms and the rest of the hotel hiding incipient shabbiness by playing on appealing through the quaintness of history and tradition rather than modern facilities.

Excuses, Excuses . . .

We’ve all made excuses for things.  Our behaviour, things we promised and didn’t deliver, undying devotion to a domme of 3 days online acquaintance, tasks left undone.

Fears of Questioning Your Gender and Sexuality – Don’t believe the labels

This post is about my earliest searches for truth about who and what I am.  Hopefully, it may help new subs with similar leanings and questions to get started and slay some of the demons in their heads.