A Guest Writer – Meet Swirlingfire

Reading Time: 3 minutes I had my start in blogging as a result of a very unexpected and flattering approach to write a guest post on another blog.  Now it’s my turn to offer a space to another person. I’ve only known her for a few weeks.  She’s complex, witty and dealing with the curve balls that life throws at us.  I’m… Read More »

Losing One’s Roots

Reading Time: 3 minutes Where do you come from ?  Who are your people, your family ? How else do we find an anchor to place ourselves within the turbulent streams of time ? 

Changing Priorities

Reading Time: 2 minutes Sometimes I have a stream of consciousness that expresses itself over many months.  Things that fill the mind in the small hours of sleeplessness.  Quite amazing the personal thoughts that end up here as if this was actually a totally private space.

Educating Innocence

Reading Time: 4 minutes It’s now a lost part of London, back then it was a simple forgotten backwater.  I loved the area when I visited.  R had a pokey little flat on the south side of the river, just a bit down stream from Woolwhich.  The view from the lounge was surprisingly magnificent, looking over towards the City Airport with the… Read More »

What’s in a Name ? Suggestions ?

Reading Time: 2 minutes What’s in a name ? Rather a lot, actually.  In an environment where you’re unlikely to see or meet the people you interact with, the name is your brand, your USP.

The Last Illusion

Reading Time: 2 minutes Love – the last illusion of the illusionless man This quote is from the very end of Le Carre’s Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy.  First read in my teen years, I always considered it rather profound.  As the years have gone by I’m not so sure that I know what it means now.

Invaluable Lesson In The Dungeon

Reading Time: 2 minutes It’s not often you enter the dungeon and get greeted with “God you look awful !” I’ve no idea how I looked, but I sure felt terrible.  Sod’s law had come to play.  It had been some time since the previous CP session and I’d really been looking forward to this one until my body went on strike… Read More »

Self Indulgent Post – II

Reading Time: 2 minutes Today is a poignant day. Five years ago today I got the 5 am phone call to say that my mother had died.  By itself that was not a surprise, the end had been inevitable for some time. 

Nodal Involvement

Reading Time: 2 minutes The other weekend was a trip to Glyndebourne with the former mistress.  As well as lots of good food, the Glyndebourne experience (the opera was hit and miss, but this post isn’t a review) and too much alcohol late in to the nights, it was also a time for deep conversation. I must admit that this is an… Read More »

Solitary Isn’t Lonely

Reading Time: 4 minutes Before diving in to this one I must state that the post title means me and only me.  I’m well aware that many people struggle with loneliness and it can manifest as much in a crowd of people as it can in being alone.  They have my sympathies for something that can be very debilitating.

Carry On Domming #1

Reading Time: 2 minutes I love the incongruous in BDSM, the unexpected moments to produce a giggle, the quirky and the downright hilarious.  Tension busting moments.  Ice breaking moments. This is the first in an occasional series,

Mending Stray Threads And Purpose

Reading Time: 5 minutes It’s over a week ago since I wrote about about how hard a session of confinement and brainwashing had been.  This is quite a hard post to write because I have to admit that it actually took me to some very unexpected places over an extended period of time that take quite a bit of processing.

The Leisure of Slow Bondage

Reading Time: 5 minutes I love bondage, confinement and sensory deprivation.  The tighter the bondage, the greater the feelings of restraint and there are so many variations in how it can be implemented. When it comes to canes, whips and other means of inflicting pain and raising endorphins the mind is very focused on dealing with the immediacy of the pain and… Read More »