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You’re asexual, so you hate sex ? Often that’s about the most informed people are regarding being asexual. Some think you’re seriously mis-wired, some think you just haven’t met the right partner to bring you out of it.
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200 Days No Contact I’m surprised that I’ve managed to get to a landmark number of zero contact with the mindWizard. It’s been really difficult to not turn to him regularly when I needed to talk about my mental health – ironically the issues he caused with his Narcissist ways. For those of you struggling […]
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CONTENT WARNING TRIGGER WARNING Sexual Assault Recovery Rape References – no details Mental Health Emotional Abuse A kindly DM from a follower recommending I read a blog post. I was cautious as I generally disregard bloggers that refuse point blank or rarely use CW on any of their posts. I read the piece after being […]
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Whether it’s D/s or manifestations of gender dysphoria it’s safe to say that I’ve been tightly locked in the closet for most of my life. When the important parts of my life were career and social/family it was terrifying to consider putting any of that in jeopardy to cater for some nagging black thoughts in […]
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What we perceive to be parallel lines, aren’t. My technical brain can envisage two things side-by-side going on forever. The science of perspective tells me I can never actually see this. The vanishing point in a picture is something to cause wonder. The works of Vermeer are a wonderful example of putting the parallel in […]
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I feel myself slipping back into old patterns. It’s very difficult to understand if you’ve improved yourself when so much time is spent alone. Devoid of meaningful personal contact and care of friends/lovers it’s very subjective isn’t it ? For example – I much preferred living in sweet sweet denial when I thought all men […]
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I looked at this week’s prompt for #WickedWednesday of “fear” and thought it would be a good topic. After 4 or 5 abortive attempts I find that I can’t write on it. I’ve failed in the original intent, but I think the abrupt change in direction leaves what’s left as more valid than what I […]
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This is a rather unexpected millmilestone – this blog is one year old. When first committing metaphorical pen to paper it’s easy to believe that you must craft a masterpiece every time. That way lies madness and one soon learns that you’d never publish anything under that regime. There are three things that really stand […]
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“…… **The dreaded drop that messes with your head. Fortunately, that level of drop doesn’t happen to me often. But I have also felt the massive high that only a satisfied sub who feels useful can feel. The feeling that I’ve satisfied and pleased someone….. “ My Submission – taken and stirred. Until a few years […]
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Yesterday was a lovely pre-spring day, so I went for a stroll and did something I’ve been meaning to do since I moved here 3 1/2 years ago.
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Some of us share so much about our private lives without the full knowledge of where and by whom this information is being collated. For what purpose ? Who will be able to find us and learn our true identities with a few keystrokes / computer keyboard wizardry ? We make choices based upon […]
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I’ve been haunted by a comment made well over 20 years ago by a domme who first showed me what some of the hitty, hurty things could do. It’s where I discovered how I can go introverted and unable to speak to safeword. As mild as it seems now, I took a lot more than […]
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I’ve actually explored this topic before. My launch as SwirlingFire was literally a baptism by fire. I’d not learnt to use my voice. I’d become a passive mute when it mattered. When I started to speak it was a lava flow of frustration, hurt, anger, sadness, self realisation, unknown grief and too many memories […]
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Content Warning: Mild reference to mental abuse. I’ve had long spells of celibacy sporadically from my twenties right up until I met “the mind wizard”. I went on dates, with lovely men (or so I thought at the time) it was rare to meet someone that knew how to communicate with me. I let a […]
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Celibacy – the abstinence from sex. That seems clear cut and cold, yet there’s so much more to it. Depending on the person involved the reasons for abstinence vary widely.
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As we hurtle through life we navigate it in light of our fears. We restrict ourselves to taking the safe path to avoid crippling anxiety.
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Something of an experimental foray in to #SinfulSunday Swap the court shoes for boots of similar heel height and you have what melody wore in public on Friday.