Reading Time: 3 minutes Despite modern pressures to acknowledge and cater to emotions it has to be said that for older male generations it is still largely taboo to express emotion. We were conditioned to ‘suck it up’, stiff upper lip and all that. Perhaps the one emotion that’s almost acceptable to display is anger but so often it can be seen… Read More »
Reading Time: 3 minutes That late teen rite of passage, the first visits to a nightclub. I’ve no fond memories of it. I recall migrating to a dark corner nursing a pint glass and surveying what was going on around me. The deafening sound system, the delight in abandon so apparent in everyone, the drinking to oblivion.
Reading Time: 2 minutes I’ve played little numbers games in my head from a young age. I recall reading something that said the average time it took to get to sleep after the head hit the pillow was seven minutes. Years of nights as a pre-teen and teen staring at the alarm clock in the darkness counting units of seven minutes. The… Read More »
Reading Time: 3 minutes This post is inspired by a conversation this week with a lovely blogging lady. I’m speaking of when I grew up. I can’t speak for current generations, but the indications are that the gap in male understanding of females is wider and more unbridgeable than ever.
Reading Time: 4 minutes What is this submission thing ? What does it actually mean ? Not so long ago I woke up in the middle of the night with my mind whirling like a tornado as it latched on to these questions. Sometimes hypnosis is very subtle in the way it can work on the mind. This was a less than… Read More »
Reading Time: 5 minutes I don’t usually post about a session experience until some time has passed to put it in to context and understand what I learned. This time is a bit different, it’s written the day after and there’s a big element of sub drop. However, tiredness and lethargy don’t stop me thinking and I thought it might be interesting… Read More »
Reading Time: 8 minutes A few weeks back I wrote a post on clearing out the last of the mental garbage associated with the ‘sissy’ label. Around about that time there was a very good post by furcissy analysing the over broad usage of this label in confusing and pejorative ways. It’s a good piece, providing some insights in to the extensive behaviours and… Read More »
Reading Time: 7 minutes I recently published a post Consent & Contracts on how contracts in D/s can at best blur the issues of consent and at worst lead to abuse. When I wrote it I had in mind to write a separate post relating how I migrated from the world of fantasy in to a full blown real chastity D/s relationship, which included… Read More »
Reading Time: 4 minutes Consent is a topic that’s currently on a lot of people’s minds. Before diving in to this post I should state that consent is a good thing, there should be consent 100% of the time one is engaged. How consent is maintained, updated and revoked is heavily nuanced by the circumstances and the people involved.
Reading Time: 3 minutes I find this an odd topic to contemplate on a personal level. I can read articles from people who are very aware of their preferred pronouns and I’ve come to understand why this is an important issue to them. Having said that, as the combined entity of him and her I am starting to have a strange relationship… Read More »
Reading Time: 3 minutes There’s an erotic symbolism when a session starts and she puts on the cuffs. It’s a first step in the submission to feel the bondage restriction around the wrists. It sets you up for what’s to come. Doesn’t matter if it’s to be gentle or hard, the cuffs are a reminder that for this space in time you… Read More »
Reading Time: 4 minutes I thought it time to write of the first domme I knew in the flesh as there’s an unexpected twist to the tale.
Reading Time: 5 minutes I’ve seen posts with many variations of this theme. People asking themselves if they are normal or perceived as normal. Indeed, what is normal ? Obviously, I’ve asked the same questions of myself over the years. I think the question pre-supposes a certain level of self-awareness. If you never question elements of your own make up in comparison… Read More »
Reading Time: 3 minutes I’ve been suckered by labels again. Just when I thought I’d cleaned out the last of them, hubris brings me back to earth.