Tick, Tock. Waiting for the Countdown.

Reading Time: 2 minutes I’ve played little numbers games in my head from a young age. I recall reading something that said the average time it took to get to sleep after the head hit the pillow was seven minutes.  Years of nights as a pre-teen and teen staring at the alarm clock in the darkness counting units of seven minutes.  The… Read More »

Ponderings on a Purity of Submission

Reading Time: 4 minutes What is this submission thing ?  What does it actually mean ? Not so long ago I woke up in the middle of the night with my mind whirling like a tornado as it latched on to these questions.  Sometimes hypnosis is very subtle in the way it can work on the mind.  This was a less than… Read More »

An Endorphin High – Without Pain

Reading Time: 5 minutes I don’t usually post about a session experience until some time has passed to put it in to context and understand what I learned.  This time is a bit different, it’s written the day after and there’s a big element of sub drop.  However, tiredness and lethargy don’t stop me thinking and I thought it might be interesting… Read More »

Harmful Language Programs Male Subs

Reading Time: 3 minutes In a previous post I made a reference to the way that the Internet drives sub and especially ‘sissy’ expectations of what they are supposed to be and that it’s been a race to the bottom.

A Squalid Ocean of Abuse – The Sissy

Reading Time: 8 minutes A few weeks back I wrote a post on clearing out the last of the mental garbage associated with the ‘sissy’ label. Around about that time there was a very good post by furcissy analysing the over broad usage of this label in confusing and pejorative ways.  It’s a good piece, providing some insights in to the extensive behaviours and… Read More »

Consent & Contracts

Reading Time: 4 minutes Consent is a topic that’s currently on a lot of people’s minds.  Before diving in to this post I should state that consent is a good thing, there should be consent 100% of the time one is engaged.  How consent is maintained, updated and revoked is heavily nuanced by the circumstances and the people involved. 

The Personal Pronouns Quagmire

Reading Time: 3 minutes I find this an odd topic to contemplate on a personal level.  I can read articles from people who are very aware of their preferred pronouns and I’ve come to understand why this is an important issue to them.  Having said that, as the combined entity of him and her I am starting to have a strange relationship… Read More »

When the Shackles Come Off

Reading Time: 3 minutes There’s an erotic symbolism when a session starts and she puts on the cuffs.  It’s a first step in the submission to feel the bondage restriction around the wrists.  It sets you up for what’s to come.  Doesn’t matter if it’s to be gentle or hard, the cuffs are a reminder that for this space in time you… Read More »

What Does It Mean To Be Normal ?

Reading Time: 5 minutes I’ve seen posts with many variations of this theme.  People asking themselves if they are normal or perceived as normal.  Indeed, what is normal ?  Obviously, I’ve asked the same questions of myself over the years. I think the question pre-supposes a certain level of self-awareness.  If you never question elements of your own make up in comparison… Read More »

Can You Repair a Broken Soul ?

Reading Time: 3 minutes The break up wasn’t a break up in the traditional sense.  No drama, no acrimony.  Simply a flow from one state to another.  In the first state she was an active domme and in the second, she wasn’t.  In the first state I was her sub, in the second, a close friend.