The Last Illusion

Reading Time: 2 minutes Love – the last illusion of the illusionless man This quote is from the very end of Le Carre’s Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy.  First read in my teen years, I always considered it rather profound.  As the years have gone by I’m not so sure that I know what it means now.

Invaluable Lesson In The Dungeon

Reading Time: 2 minutes It’s not often you enter the dungeon and get greeted with “God you look awful !” I’ve no idea how I looked, but I sure felt terrible.  Sod’s law had come to play.  It had been some time since the previous CP session and I’d really been looking forward to this one until my body went on strike… Read More »

Self Indulgent Post – II

Reading Time: 2 minutes Today is a poignant day. Five years ago today I got the 5 am phone call to say that my mother had died.  By itself that was not a surprise, the end had been inevitable for some time. 

Nodal Involvement

Reading Time: 2 minutes The other weekend was a trip to Glyndebourne with the former mistress.  As well as lots of good food, the Glyndebourne experience (the opera was hit and miss, but this post isn’t a review) and too much alcohol late in to the nights, it was also a time for deep conversation. I must admit that this is an… Read More »

Solitary Isn’t Lonely

Reading Time: 4 minutes Before diving in to this one I must state that the post title means me and only me.  I’m well aware that many people struggle with loneliness and it can manifest as much in a crowd of people as it can in being alone.  They have my sympathies for something that can be very debilitating.

Carry On Domming #1

Reading Time: 2 minutes I love the incongruous in BDSM, the unexpected moments to produce a giggle, the quirky and the downright hilarious.  Tension busting moments.  Ice breaking moments. This is the first in an occasional series,

Mending Stray Threads And Purpose

Reading Time: 5 minutes It’s over a week ago since I wrote about about how hard a session of confinement and brainwashing had been.  This is quite a hard post to write because I have to admit that it actually took me to some very unexpected places over an extended period of time that take quite a bit of processing.

The Leisure of Slow Bondage

Reading Time: 5 minutes I love bondage, confinement and sensory deprivation.  The tighter the bondage, the greater the feelings of restraint and there are so many variations in how it can be implemented. When it comes to canes, whips and other means of inflicting pain and raising endorphins the mind is very focused on dealing with the immediacy of the pain and… Read More »

Subs of Convenience

Reading Time: 2 minutes I came across this term recently in an article by @DoctorSue.  It is a wonderful encapsulation of something I’ve tried to convey myself but failed to reduce it to such a succinct phrase.

Give Me All Your Money

Reading Time: < 1 minute Financial domination has to be one of the more contentious aspects of D/s.  On coming across this kink the initial reaction is often one of horror and repugnance. There was a Twitter thread on Sunday started by @_Masterseye about some of the uglier FinDom terminology turning up in her timeline via RT’s.  It seems I set myself up to produce… Read More »

Thoughts on Financial Domination

Reading Time: 10 minutes I don’t know – you get suckered by the perils of Twitter exchanges where you find you’ve half committed writing a post on the topic in question. Up to now I’ve specifically kept away from the topic of financial domination.  Partly because I knew I’d write way too much.  Whilst I have mixed views on it a lot… Read More »

Wish Fulfilment vs Reality

Reading Time: 4 minutes I was ruminating on a variation of that old perennial of what would one do if one had the money to be free of the usual responsibilities.  Where my mind turned to was that this was a form of fantasy wish fulfilment.  Some of those wishes may be grounded in some reality but are generally unobtainable for now.… Read More »

Excuse me ?!?!

Reading Time: 2 minutes Time for a minor rant. One of my more unusual posts was about a sploshing session done a couple of months ago.  My domme had a picture from that session up on FetLife.  The cause of my irritation is that today a new comment appeared under the picture.

Funny He Never Married

Reading Time: 2 minutes The late 1960’s comedy had lots of great television and radio performers revolving through lots of different programs.  For that reason I had to look up where this sketch came from.  It’s actually from “It’s Marty”, performed by Marty Feldman and Tim Brooke-Taylor. What brought it to mind this time was a telephone call with the father.  Any… Read More »