The Dominatrix as Therapist
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I am not a Guardian reader, which means I may only see articles on there when they cause a stir on Twitter. This was one such recent ‘stir’ … Why I ditched my therapist to hire a dominatrix instead
SwirlingFire: Consent
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Consent Stomach churning Tightening against acid burns Bile rises more often now Crippling pain that wakes me from sleep Hot sweats cold shivers Nausea Vomiting How delightful Complicated from Physical damage Lies balancing on top of more lies An upturned pyramid Angled steps heading nowhere An Escher print of a complicated architectural testament of how […]
SwirlingFire: The Concierge
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The Concierge I miss the man he pretended to be I fell for a mirage The essence his spells hypnotised me The mindWizard training Ensorcell A new milestone I never expected You’re never alone When cruelly rejected Humiliation is minor The lasting effects You feel all the guilt As your mind is swept clean Boundaries […]
The Safe Word Hypocrite
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Under the most basic general principles of safety I am all in favour of subs having a safe word. With so much discussion focused around consent, it’s an essential part of play that makes safety first and foremost for all concerned. For sure, the more you trust your partner the less you may feel […]
SwirlingFire: The Camera Never Lies
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The Camera Never Lies I wish I were able to take photos like many of the talented stills I see regularly on social media. Whether still life, animals, botanical or body parts from any angle. It started my mind twirling. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, there can be one simple frame from […]
The Bon Motto
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When it comes to BDSM I’m more inclined to the principles of RACK than SSC, though either is a vital concept in such relationships for them to be safe(r) and successful. However, although you may not come across these concepts until moving in BDSM circles they’re really just a restatement of something that should […]
Social Media
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My list of what is social media is defined by age. My first access to the Internet was in 1991. The company I’d just joined had installed a Cisco router with a 14,400 dial on demand modem. A small SCO Unix box was the means for providing everyone with an email account. I became […]
SwirlingFire: Mental Media
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Mental Media Scrolling and eye rolls Click and zoom No one’s alone When your phones in the room Laughing and joking Banter runs rife Nobody knows When you cyber fuck someone’s wife Writing deep prose Spilling ones guts The Majority laugh They still think you’re nuts Buying lace knickers For the one you adore It’s […]
Ripping Yarns
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Content Notice References to Peter Sutcliffe The blog by @May_Matters is a great read that is enjoyed by many. There’s been a wonderful addition to it with posts from her man, Mr More. These posts evoke my memories of gritty experiences of the 1970’s and 1980’s. The genesis of this post was a lovely tale, Take […]
SwirlingFire: Kink and Fetish
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Kink and Fetish I am such a freaky chick. I get turned on by really odd things. I hadn’t realised until quite recently what turns me on to someone can also turn me completely off too. 1. Word Play – That’s one of my “things” – word play as flirting, challenging my mind with […]
Kill The Heretic
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Sometimes it’s hard to think that you’re doing anything different or what might be regarded as out of the ordinary. Like-minded souls on Twitter and in the blogosphere are not quite an echo chamber, but they do tend to help normalise the idea that kink is ubiquitous. And perhaps it is. When the tabloids […]
SwirlingFire: Betrayed
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Betrayed I saw the idea to write daily via a semi pro writer/tweeter. It was to write 365 words everyday. I bent the directive to help maintain focus. I call it my #365Words. As I attempted the first few days, I found I had started to write prose, sometimes loosely rhyming, yet not a specific […]
SwirlingFire: One Year Blog Anniversary Month
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One Year Blog Anniversary Month The Universe seems to be using my vulnerability against me. I’ll blame it on The Harvest Moon. A full moon. People extolling their own frustrations and dumping them on me. Others with noticeable mental health issues that are deliberately inflicting their brand of bad attitude I’m not certain if I’m […]
Barnet Bastille – Farewell
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Content Notice Needle Play Pictures In the time I’ve been writing this blog and relating some D/s experiences with my domme, I’ve maintained a level of discretion as to who she is. It’s not that I’ve hidden things, the breadcrumbs have always been there and some curious readers have followed them and worked out who […]
Memories of The World Trade Center
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Sat in my office that Tuesday afternoon I heard a bubble of noise to look at the news. Confused as it was, the scenes were horrifying. A plane had flown in to one of the towers of the WTC. Back then no one’s first conclusion was terrorism, we must be witnessing a terrible accident. […]
SwirlingFire: The Assessment
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The Assessment & Swirling Twirls I need more therapy. There. I said it. Cue eye rolling and yawns for those that think I should’ve been locked up in a facility with my mouth taped shut a long time ago. It’s easier to know one needs counselling than to actively search for someone qualified without agenda to […]
[F4TFriday] Music New and Old
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I know many people who like, even need, a soundtrack to their daily lives. It’s not something I can do. I’ve always had an aversion to loud noise and more recently I have developed misophonia, which means that although the worst are ‘people noises’, any background noise has the potential to cause migraines, you’ll […]
SwirlingFire: Nightmares and Dreams
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Nightmares and Dreams Ahhh the innocent days of making a wish on the Blue Moon, so many years ago, a once in a lifetime opportunity. Taking an enormous gamble. The risk of a lifetime. Facts, truth and information unknown. A seductive mystery A distinguished mastery A deception Moon madness That one wish that broke me […]
SwirlingFire: #365Words for #365Days
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I hoped I’d feel so much better to have a goal and exceed it. I don’t feel its much of an achievement. I hurt as much today as I did 365 days ago. The only difference? 99% of it was not about me 1% – Me, believing the lies. I was brainwashed by an expert […]
Gender Dysphoria & Mental Health
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Content Notice #Gender Dysphoria #Depression #Anxiety #Suicidal thoughts