Colour, Style & Image. A Work In Progress.

You read something and it sets off a train of thought and sometimes if you think hard enough it leads to a just a little bit more understanding of your own outlook.

Carry On Domming #1

I love the incongruous in BDSM, the unexpected moments to produce a giggle, the quirky and the downright hilarious.  Tension busting moments.  Ice breaking moments. This is the first in an occasional series,

Mending Stray Threads And Purpose

It’s over a week ago since I wrote about about how hard a session of confinement and brainwashing had been.  This is quite a hard post to write because I have to admit that it actually took me to some very unexpected places over an extended period of time that take quite a bit of processing.

Your Post Might Not Be As Self-Indulgent As You Think

It becomes a recurring question as to what it is I am doing here ?  Not just regarding what I post, but what it is I enjoy reading from other people.

Clearing the Bar – Confinement & Brainwashing

Six hours in a sleepsack, oblivious to the world sounds wonderfully relaxing, right ? It certainly can be, but when she straps me in, applies the blindfold and places the headphones over my ears there’s an additional element.  The headphones are playing a continuous hypnosis loop and will continue to do so for the next six hours.  This… Read More »

An Apology To (some) Doms

My knowledge and experience of male doms is limited and coloured from the past.

The Leisure of Slow Bondage

I love bondage, confinement and sensory deprivation.  The tighter the bondage, the greater the feelings of restraint and there are so many variations in how it can be implemented. When it comes to canes, whips and other means of inflicting pain and raising endorphins the mind is very focused on dealing with the immediacy of the pain and… Read More »

Subs of Convenience

I came across this term recently in an article by @DoctorSue.  It is a wonderful encapsulation of something I’ve tried to convey myself but failed to reduce it to such a succinct phrase.

Give Me All Your Money

Financial domination has to be one of the more contentious aspects of D/s.  On coming across this kink the initial reaction is often one of horror and repugnance. There was a Twitter thread on Sunday started by @_Masterseye about some of the uglier FinDom terminology turning up in her timeline via RT’s.  It seems I set myself up to produce… Read More »

Thoughts on Financial Domination

I don’t know – you get suckered by the perils of Twitter exchanges where you find you’ve half committed writing a post on the topic in question. Up to now I’ve specifically kept away from the topic of financial domination.  Partly because I knew I’d write way too much.  Whilst I have mixed views on it a lot… Read More »

Wish Fulfilment vs Reality

I was ruminating on a variation of that old perennial of what would one do if one had the money to be free of the usual responsibilities.  Where my mind turned to was that this was a form of fantasy wish fulfilment.  Some of those wishes may be grounded in some reality but are generally unobtainable for now.… Read More »

Facing The Darkness

I and others sometimes write about the descent in to darkness and dark fantasies that male subs, especially, are prone to.  They’re often related to the internalised rationale of ‘I wish someone would make me do that.’ 

Excuse me ?!?!

Time for a minor rant. One of my more unusual posts was about a sploshing session done a couple of months ago.  My domme had a picture from that session up on FetLife.  The cause of my irritation is that today a new comment appeared under the picture.

Who’d Get Locked in Chastity ?

The answer is that there are a surprising number who do so and many many times that number who fantasise about it.

Funny He Never Married

The late 1960’s comedy had lots of great television and radio performers revolving through lots of different programs.  For that reason I had to look up where this sketch came from.  It’s actually from “It’s Marty”, performed by Marty Feldman and Tim Brooke-Taylor. What brought it to mind this time was a telephone call with the father.  Any… Read More »

Legs Eleven – Twitter at its Finest

I hadn’t thought of posting today until an exchange on Twitter had melody in a bit of a spin – in a very nice way.

The Elusive Emotional Orgasm

Despite modern pressures to acknowledge and cater to emotions it has to be said that for older male generations it is still largely taboo to express emotion.  We were conditioned to ‘suck it up’, stiff upper lip and all that.  Perhaps the one emotion that’s almost acceptable to display is anger but so often it can be seen… Read More »

The Sexuality Question

That late teen rite of passage, the first visits to a nightclub.  I’ve no fond memories of it.  I recall migrating to a dark corner nursing a pint glass and surveying what was going on around me.  The deafening sound system, the delight in abandon so apparent in everyone, the drinking to oblivion.

A Personal Journey Through D/s Hypnosis – Part 3, Whose Thoughts Are They ?

To continue this occasional series, I thought I’d touch on a common misperception about hypnosis.  It’s the idea that the subject must be so weak-willed that they are overcome by the hypnotist and subject to their will and the suggestions or thoughts implanted by hypnosis. 

Why Do I Write This Blog ?

Being the flippant bugger I am, that question brings to mind the Bill Hicks Waffle House routine.