The Mark of Cane

Reading Time: 3 minutes Depending on your point of view I am one of those people, fortunate or unfortunate enough to heal quickly from BDSM punishment.  Or more correctly, for the visible marks to fade quickly.  Usually the deeper pain will also be gone quite rapidly unless she does something dramatic that borders on being a bit dangerous.

Gender Fluid Identity

Reading Time: 2 minutes For most of my life I’ve asked questions of myself regarding sexuality and gender.  I have to admit that for many years I never really understood they were separate questions.  Some 25+ years ago I got my first access to the Internet and started to find some answers that I could quite happily live with.

3 Types of Flagellants

Reading Time: 2 minutes A while back I saw a tweet from the inestimable @WhoresOfYore and made a note of it at the time.  If you’ve never followed her, I highly recommend that you do.  

Melody The Size Queen

Reading Time: 2 minutes Well, that title got your attention !!! This is a slightly unusual post.  It’s all too easy to ignore or play down personal achievements.  For once, melody just wants to be bold in celebrating a personal achievement.

Taking your kink to work

Reading Time: 2 minutes It’s the little things that can thrill or amuse.  There are the things that you might try in order to experience the thrill of potential discovery.  And there are the things that can be seen and assumed to be normal.

A Letter to my 16 Year Old Self

Reading Time: 3 minutes It’s a bit of a fad, so I thought I’d give it a go. Dear M, You won’t recognise me, though I recognise you all too well.

How Do I Know melody is Real ? – Emotions

Reading Time: 3 minutes How real is melody ?  It’s a question I’ve asked myself for years.  In past years the answer would come back that she’s not very real, though her presence might explain some odd quirks of behaviour or feelings that are abnormal for the general personality. In more recent times with the encouragement of hypnosis, she is most definitely… Read More »

MELODY’S STORY – part 3, hypnosis in BDSM

Reading Time: 5 minutes This post was originally posted on 20/02/2018 as the last of three guest posts on the PainAsPleasure blog by BibulousOne.  He saw something and encouraged melody to write.  From those small beginnings I’ve graduated to running my own blog. The post can be found at MELODY’S STORY – part 3, hypnosis in BDSM but is reproduced here in it’s entirety.

Self-Indulgent Post.

Reading Time: 4 minutes This is not my usual fare, it’s something of a self indulgence. Today would have been my mother’s 78th birthday.  She was born in South London a matter of weeks before the Luftwaffe started dropping bombs on London. 

MELODY’S STORY – part 2 – chastity

Reading Time: 5 minutes This post was originally posted on 27/01/2018 as the second of three guest posts on the PainAsPleasure blog by BibulousOne.  He saw something and encouraged melody to write.  From those small beginnings I’ve graduated to running my own blog. The post can be found at MELODY’S STORY – part 2 – chastity but is reproduced here in it’s entirety.

MELODY’S STORY, PART 1 – submission

Reading Time: 5 minutes This post was originally posted on 2/01/2018 as the first of three guest posts on the PainAsPleasure blog by BibulousOne.  He saw something and encouraged melody to write.  From those small beginnings I’ve graduated to running my own blog. The post can be found at MELODY’s STORY, PART 1 – Submission but is reproduced here in it’s entirety.

This Is Not The Domme You Are Looking For

Reading Time: 2 minutes I see some useful blogs and Twitter threads go by providing advice in how to approach and behave towards a domme.  Or how the newly (and not so newly) curious might take the first steps to seeing their dreams and fantasies be played out in reality. This post looks at some of the same things but from a… Read More »

Are You Shadowbanned ? Or Jumping to Conclusions ?

Reading Time: 5 minutes The issue of shadowbanning on Twitter seems to have hit a level of consciousness that at times reminds of the days when fat fingers would do something unexpected on a computer and the immediate conclusion people would jump to was that they had been infected with a mysterious virus. I’ve recently pointed a number of people at a… Read More »