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The traditional route to becoming an aunt is to have siblings who procreate. There’s a lot of potential annoyance in this. There’s the growing up with them, for a start. Then putting up with their choice in partner, the faffing around of 9 months gestation and then finding the result is far from cute […]
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A small disclaimer: these are my personal views on how mental health vs mental illness applies to me. Nothing is implied as to how anyone else should feel or cope. This is an open week on SB4MH and it gives me an opportunity to give some thoughts to a great post from early October […]
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Is it a vice, an indulgence, or perhaps a fetish ? Certainly it started as a fetish, probably the very first real and acknowledged one. It gradually became a vice, then an indulgence and now it’s almost a necessity as something nice that makes me feel … well, feel. What am I talking about […]
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Good grief !!! Is that a cue for me to actually write smut ? Hmmm … perhaps tangentially. Fantasies can be odd, they are, of course, intensely personal images, feelings and sensations from the darkest recesses of the mind – veritable monsters from the Id.
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I’m Not A Slave – I was Bamboozled There are parts of my mind I can never reopen. Parts of my mind that need to stay locked. The parts that opened, I now realise, were burgeoning with subliminal messages and possibly drowning in confusion of discovering I liked the kink he showed me (without consent) […]
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Game, Set. Match That’s a great Avi As the drool hits the screen Another great body All buffed Shiny clean lace, heels, stockings Can you hear the clasps snap I’m new I’m exciting My bio screams “bait” The opening gambit The giggle back kissy face emojis Followback chat The usual style The change underway The […]
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See You Next Tuesday Tuesday 14 May 2019 “See You Next Tuesday” Tuesday’s I always want to sleep as long as possible, invariably, I wake up really early, before six am and can’t settle back to sleepy snoozing. I then have 7 or 8 hours of restless pacing or trying to find errands or jobs […]
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This post is a departure from my usual fare. It may upset some, potentially alienate others. Quite likely I will receive flak, perhaps abuse. Probably lose followers, too. When all is said and done I’m of an older generation that grew up in a very different world. As such I have a big beef […]
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Gratitude It’s the weirdest thing. Seeing my Twitter @name in a compilation list – The Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2019 I’m not a nuts and bolts, dildo testing, vibrator wielding, uncovered gusset angled writer. Whilst, I quickly add – zero judgements of others – this is, after all, how we learn from each other […]
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As a sub the reset is a hard and salutary experience. I went through one such experience early in my D/s path, it was a very painful lesson.
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I’ll let you into a secret. I have a work in my drafts folder that talks about some secrets. It’s been there many months and it’s a perfect piece for this prompt. But you’re not going to see it until I’m ready or it eventually passes its sell by date 😜
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One Wish Thoughts keep swirling into view then out again. My head aches from too many thoughts. I’m not a scholarly deep thinker I’m an over thinker An over analyser The last few days (at time of writing) have not been the best. I thought I was doing a lot better. It’s the first meltdown […]
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There’s a moment in time during childhood that I can pinpoint as to when my life changed irrevocably. The fork in the road took me out of one placid inevitability into a chaotic future that still has repercussions each time the butterfly flaps its wings. Obviously, as a child, the choice was made for […]
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I am not a Guardian reader, which means I may only see articles on there when they cause a stir on Twitter. This was one such recent ‘stir’ … Why I ditched my therapist to hire a dominatrix instead
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Consent Stomach churning Tightening against acid burns Bile rises more often now Crippling pain that wakes me from sleep Hot sweats cold shivers Nausea Vomiting How delightful Complicated from Physical damage Lies balancing on top of more lies An upturned pyramid Angled steps heading nowhere An Escher print of a complicated architectural testament of how […]
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The Concierge I miss the man he pretended to be I fell for a mirage The essence his spells hypnotised me The mindWizard training Ensorcell A new milestone I never expected You’re never alone When cruelly rejected Humiliation is minor The lasting effects You feel all the guilt As your mind is swept clean Boundaries […]
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Under the most basic general principles of safety I am all in favour of subs having a safe word. With so much discussion focused around consent, it’s an essential part of play that makes safety first and foremost for all concerned. For sure, the more you trust your partner the less you may feel […]
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The Camera Never Lies I wish I were able to take photos like many of the talented stills I see regularly on social media. Whether still life, animals, botanical or body parts from any angle. It started my mind twirling. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, there can be one simple frame from […]
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When it comes to BDSM I’m more inclined to the principles of RACK than SSC, though either is a vital concept in such relationships for them to be safe(r) and successful. However, although you may not come across these concepts until moving in BDSM circles they’re really just a restatement of something that should […]
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My list of what is social media is defined by age. My first access to the Internet was in 1991. The company I’d just joined had installed a Cisco router with a 14,400 dial on demand modem. A small SCO Unix box was the means for providing everyone with an email account. I became […]