Reading Time: 4 minutes Let’s face it, the majority of the words we live by are given to us, with varying degrees of force, by people who want to control us, make us conform to their concepts of how we should live. They are thrown at us all our lives, if we let them.
Reading Time: 6 minutes Content Advisory General references to rape and rape-play. NO details or descriptions. Light in the Dark Do you acknowledge CNC/RAPE fantasy and DV/RAPE to be totally different ? CNC is seen as a “taboo” kink – mainly by those of us who don’t understand what it involves. Far from any awkward ways of describing what is or… Read More »
Reading Time: 5 minutes It was an interesting tweet with many replies that Floss put out a few days ago asking what do we consider to be taboo ? There are macro taboos that we agree on as a society. There are micro taboos that could be for smaller communities or very personal.
Reading Time: 5 minutes SwirlingFire: Overshare (#sb4mh repost) I’ve chosen blog post #24 to submit to this weeks #sb4mh “Select a blog BEFORE you found #sb4mh”, This particular post (Jan 2019) was, on reflection, a very difficult and lonely time for me. 2018 had thrown some cleverly devious manipulation into the mix whilst I was deeply into pre trauma counselling. Someone I… Read More »
Reading Time: 6 minutes Content Notice – Incitement to suicide, proceed with caution In this week’s description for the #SB4MH prompt, Cat wrote: This week’s prompt is open but with a twist. Share the very first post that you wrote about mental health. Share the one you published before you knew about SB4MH. It can be about your issues or someone else’s issues.… Read More »
Reading Time: 4 minutes Mirage I’ve reached an unthought of number of 50 blogs posted and hosted with @sissymaidmelody (Swirlingfire: Posts). I’m still in my infancy of blogging. I like the mental process behind writing. It allows me to harness my thoughts in order to understand my life and to process the ebb and flow of past events. My blogs are all… Read More »
Reading Time: 5 minutes If there’s one thing I find really hard to come to terms with in personal relationships, it is taking things at face value.
Reading Time: 4 minutes Swirly’s Grand Day Out Born October 2016, a caged bird – released, broken, dull feathers, betraying a breath that was almost extinguished. Parallel similarities to the mythical Phoenix. From flames comes death (you google it) to a pile of Ashes. The time between fully destroyed and dormant, until tiny glowing embers caught on the wind, enough to repeat… Read More »
Reading Time: 5 minutes Selfie or Selfish Quick glimpses into people’s lives are fascinating. I find myself zooming in on the background to gain a peek into personalities. All I gain from this is that I have a remarkably messy bedroom and many of you have storage solutions that would put Marie Kondo to shame! Why do adults on Twitter social media… Read More »
Reading Time: 4 minutes For many subs of all genders a collar is the ultimate visible expression of being owned by their dominant. It (usually) signifies mutual commitment and having achieved a level of submission within a relationship that the dominant wants to recognise.
Reading Time: 3 minutes With only a few exceptions every person who has been part of my D/s journey has been a fan of Leonard Cohen. Perhaps that’s because beyond the lyrical and romantic poetry, the understanding of the human condition, there’s more than a hint he had some BDSM leanings. Live versions of I’m Your Man usually included “I’ll wear a… Read More »
Reading Time: 7 minutes Content Notice: “As with all my pieces, I write from personal experience not make believe fantasy. Please exercise care. No detailed trauma. References to ‘scat play’ and clinical PTSD lists” The Path To Enlightenment Triggers can be both positive and negative. I know this may sound counter-intuitive, but bear with me. To understand what a TRUE trigger… Read More »
Reading Time: 3 minutes Content Notice: No flesh on display There’s a dividing line in my relationship with the camera. Until very recently, I didn’t have one. I aggressively avoided being in any picture. The only pictures of me being for a passport and very reluctantly, ID for work (though I did pass off a picture of Father Jack as ID for an… Read More »
Reading Time: 3 minutes Content Warning: Discusses non-consensual activities – Blackmail I saw a picture on my Twitter timeline that set off all my tics and triggers about the blurring of consent.
Reading Time: 4 minutes Life sometimes offers us an opportunity to revisit an event of the past and have the pleasure of completing it in a way that was not possible in that past. To put right some ills or disappointments.
Reading Time: 4 minutes Hanging in the Balance June 2019 – That was a bitch of a month. It’s been a while since I’ve had the strange tummy twirling. I guess other people call them “butterflies” – it feels more thuddy than the usual ‘excited / nerves’ sensations. I thought it was possibly hunger but, I think we both know that it’s… Read More »
Reading Time: 4 minutes This prompt is a bit outside my normal thought patterns. First, the last movie I was interested enough to see in the cinema on its release was Close Encounter of the Third Kind (1977) – yes, it’s been 42 years since I’ve been in a cinema. And, second, my general lack of interest in sex. Or in the… Read More »
Reading Time: 3 minutes Crazy It all started as a throw away comment with a giffage war in DM. A private nickname. The style in which it was presented was with good grace and was taken with good grace as, no doubt, I’d done or said something daft. It happens a lot. I get the silly giggles and do embarrassing stuff. Too… Read More »
Reading Time: 4 minutes Am I going crazy ? That wasn’t a totally silly question. As I now know, melody has been there for a very long time although largely ignored. The first time she grabbed control and wouldn’t let go was a scary mental episode to come to terms with. I know it’s not a coincidence that she did so a… Read More »
Reading Time: 2 minutes Betrayal A weird feeling in the pit of my stomach It’s not anxiety It’s different It feels like it’s attached Deep inside my core. I thought at first I needed more water to drink, The trembling of dehydration in soaring temperatures That moment before The room goes silent You feel as though you’re about to vomit A hot… Read More »